Am I exaggerating because my friend gambles every evening and only wants to do something with me at lunchtime?

I have the problem that my friend (21) has been playing with his friends every evening since the corona crisis, so online. You have to keep in mind that we don't live together. However, we can still make phone calls / facetimes or we often use the netflix party function and watch films or series etc.

I'm a person who is most productive in the morning and prefers to take care of me rather than in the evening. Am i crazy am I exaggerating I feel neglected or like a place holder when my friend can only do something with his friends in the evening and I'm available at noon, so to speak. I would also like to do something with him in the evening and my own things at noon? It would be completely okay for me if he could say hey guys on his own I can't do it today, I'd rather do something with my girlfriend. Then it would bother me much less if he had no time for me in the evening.

However, my friend says that I do not allow him that he has fun with his friends in the evening and that he controls when he can gamble and when he can't. No, it is not so. I just want to feel that I'm more important than gamble and that I'm number one.

does someone out there understand me or am I just exaggerating?

Play with me

Just do your own things in the evening? Everyone has a hobby and you don't necessarily have to share that with my girlfriend, then you just need time for yourself.

Yes i said haha but he said that my laptop wouldn't pack the game

Then you are simply not his number 1.

The problem is that I can't be as productive in the evening as at noon. I fully understand that he needs time for himself and his friends, but can you take an evening for your friends?

Of course you can, but if he doesn't want to, you have to accept that, he's probably not as affectionate as you (which is not a bad thing) and his mates with whom he gambles are probably not on during the day.

As in every respect, everything comes down to a compromise. So only agreements, rules help and of course stick to them. Both.

That's why you're looking for someone with the same hobbies. We have been playing in the evening for 14 years.