We're both 16 and I've known him through school for 2 years. But never had close contact it was only fleeting contact since he was in my secondary class. There has always been interest in him because I find him very attractive and cute.
Since we're on vacation we have been writing on Whatsapp. I asked for his number first, but he was happy about it.
He has called me a number of times since then and asked if we had a meeting but never had time.
Then we met the first time recently. It was only an hour, he said his father didn't know we were meeting and actually he should be somewhere else now so he couldn't be out that long.
Still, it was nice, he asked me a lot about me and my future. We talked a lot and laughed a lot. In the end he hugged me mega long on purpose and said, why now such a long hug "and laughed. Then he smiled at me and said we could do something again later because he then has more time for me.
After the meeting, he asked me via Whatsapp if I was mad at him because he had to leave so quickly.
Today in my story I asked if someone would like to do something with me. He saw it early but only reacted to it hours later why I wouldn't ask him if we would meet.
I told him I thought he had no interest in meeting again and he said I should just have questions, then he asked what I would like to do and I said I had no idea. Then asked me if I have Netflix. Said yes and he, Then we know what we're doing "
But he wanted to look at me, but unfortunately it doesn't work because of my parents, which I also told him, then he said we could just do something outside next week. But I'm sure that we will definitely come back to the movie night. Do you think he just wants a friendship plus or a relationship? I would like to get involved in the evening but don't go any further than cuddling and kissing because I haven't had my first time and would rather take my time with something like that. Since I still can't assess what exactly he wants from me. How could I best make it clear to him? I don't mind if we only have a friendship plus but nothing against a relationship. But I don't dare to speak to him because he only makes it clear to me indirectly, he wants to express something from me and nothing clearly. I'm afraid I could break the atmosphere or tension if I speak to him DIRECTLY about what he wants. Do you have any tips on what I can do?
I'm still young but that sounds exactly like something from my sister (15) and such a guy (16). My sister was in contact with such a guy for a while. He was also at home a few times and they definitely made out, etc. The guy didn't think much about it but my sister developed feelings for him. When she asked him about it, he broke off the contact with her completely whether he had given a signal beforehand that he wanted something solid
I do not want to scare you but I would not say it directly I would rather wrap it up in a conversation and always ask questions in such a direction
Hope I could help you further. Please feel free to contact me LG
Yes, that's the problem, he just hasn't made it clear to me yet what exactly he wants from me. And if I asked him right now I would be afraid to break it, but maybe I'll try to steer the topic at the next meeting and hope that I can get more out of him because I really need clarity.
I think he's interested in a relationship. If he only wanted sex, he would have tried more at the first meeting and would not have asked you about your life. He showed interest.
Furthermore, he was disappointed that you did not ask him for another meeting, but instead generally whether someone had time. Although he showed you that he is interested in you.
If he tries more at the next meeting and continues to do so even though you say "no", he doesn't want anything serious. But so far it has not worked that way.
I think that's best
Thank you for the answer let's see what happens at the next meeting. But would it generally be a sign that he only wants sex if he tries something on the second? Or don't I have to worry because I think at a second meeting a kiss would be fine for me if the situation fits
By "tried" I meant if he should try sex straight away. Would be something negative. It would be really bad if you said "no" and he tried again soon afterwards. A kiss wouldn't be bad.
Okay love thanks.
