How should / can I go on now (love)?

A good (special) friend (Crush) and I have known each other for over a year, but have only been doing something for 9 months. We met often and did something together, e.g. Going out to eat, going to the cinema, riding a motorcycle, cooking and watching Netflix together, skiing etc.

Only over time did I get feelings for her through more frequent meetings and talked about it and it came out that I'm very, very important to her. The thing is, when I confessed to her (4 months ago) she took an interest in me. In the meantime, however, she has lost interest. She doesn't even want to try and purposely doesn't meet me that often anymore because I didn't want to accept the friendship. But she once said to me that if we meet more often it could be that her feelings want more but she said she "knows" her feelings and claims that there would never be any (hb never heard that someone never wrote) , but since she was already interested, I think that something can happen simply by meeting more often. At least I want to try it. When I accepted it, she suddenly came here that she doesn't want to meet me that often anymore because I have feelings for her and she thinks it's "strange" and doesn't feel comfortable.

Until not quite 2 months ago she had a friend (class relationship) with whom she broke up because she said that she no longer felt the Bzh. She said then, when I confessed my feelings to her, that she was having problems with her boyfriend at the time and believes that she is interested in them. She's been seeing him every day since Mo.

I also think to myself, how am I supposed to influence their feelings and fight for their love if I don't get the opportunity. I mean, on the other hand, we almost always do something on our own. We had our own way of celebrating a long time ago (at parties) but we never got there and after all we still celebrate alone with our friends. We also had to introduce ourselves to our friends. It never turned out to be anything

How can I go on now, I don't want to give her up, and I hope that this will eventually lead to something, because feelings can also arise in a good friendship, but that she doesn't even want to try and then no longer means to me to be able to meet is a bit strange.

Then I persuaded her that I didn't want anything more from her so that she would meet me more often. She said then "yes then we can meet again more often". I also noticed that she no longer tells me that something is happening and she has problems or something, she always says it's all good. Got the feeling that she doesn't trust me anymore.

How should I go on now I just need her, I can't look at any other girl because I only have her in my head

I don't read that through

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If you are not her boyfriend, you are her friend

Makes no sense

She already has a boyfriend with whom she has sex.

I don't think you read my question completely. She has NO boyfriend anymore. And she's never been on the pill or IUD so she only had her first time with him recently (before they split up).

End the contact, because that way you won't get away from her. She told you clearly that you were in the friend zone. She was only interested in you because you did her good after the breakup and you served as a substitute. There are many who get together with you right after the breakup and then end it again because their feelings were not enough. He was only a substitute and gave them what they needed, which is why they persuaded themselves to feel.

You can very well know for sure whether you will develop feelings or not. I also had two who wanted more of me that I was friends with. The friendship broke off because I, just like her, felt uncomfortable with them (I also meant this in your previous questions. Now you have confirmed to me that she didn't feel comfortable either because of your feelings). Even later on, I could never feel at ease with them again, even when they were taken.

You give yourself unnecessary hopes and will suffer as soon as she has a partner. And she's guaranteed to find it and it won't be you. But if you can still have a friendship… I couldn't.

I've already tried to end the contact. But then she always reported that it just didn't work. And I realized that a meeting is more good for me than ending the contact. Somehow we get along too well for that.

Besides, it's not like that. If she really didn't want anything from me, wouldn't she want to cut the contact?

She wants a friendship somehow. Even if she feels uncomfortable, she likes to write with you. Maybe even hopes that her discomfort will go away and you can become something like her Boyfriend. But she doesn't want anything serious.

It is good for you because you are still hoping. How would you feel if she got someone new?

How would you feel if she got someone new?

I don't know because at the moment she only does something with me, otherwise only in groups with her friends. But definitely not worse than I already feel. It can't get any worse.

But how does it say: "Love always includes pain"