I'm 15 years old and my problem has been looking like this for a long time since we moved since I was 13, I live with my mother alone and the thing is that I have somehow since we live alone no more rules and no structure I also have adhs but take pills my mother doesn't set any rules for me at the moment except that she says I should help with the washing up etc. But otherwise I have no rules at all I can stay up until 5 a.m. In the middle of the week if I want and everything and she only says sometimes she often says yes, I'm 15 now I have to think about everything myself at school I'm actually relatively good except now since corona because I didn't do any homeschooling assignments in the past everything was different we lived in one house, we were a big family My mother went to work and I always had rules against me and I had a great life but since the separation and the move I felt nothing more good except for school Expressed and when I talk to my mother like that, nothing changes anyway, for example I say to her yes, you can't give me a few rules, but then she only does it if I say that and I would just like it that way comes from her and not that I have to tell her I want to stay with my mother in any case, but she and her boyfriend are currently leading a life where I don't fit in, for example, he goes to work, my mother does housework but when he comes to the Work is back home Lying almost exclusively in bed and watching films on Netflix, who watch Feeling more than no idea who I want, just regulate and structure what you think I could do I had probably thought that I would lead my own life that I make a daily routine for myself, i.e. Eat lunch alone and no longer stop at the way of life of those who participate
You are in puberty and are slowly growing up. It is a difficult phase. You will likely need to learn to live independently. At 15 you won't be sent to bed at 8.30 p.m. You have to learn to take responsibility yourself. The life of your mother and of your friend what you describe is not abnormal or unregulated. In your opinion, are adults not allowed to spend their free time freely? Why shouldn't they watch TV? When the man works properly and the woman keeps the household in good order, it is just too insulting to call these people's lives unregulated. An unregulated life is a life without work, the household comes down and rubbish is lying around, personal hygiene is neglected and there's no day-night rhythm, buddies come in the middle of the night and the person in question hangs around for hours in some scene at the train station, as is the case with many people with depression or addictions.
Thank you very much first for the answer yes I should really take control of my life like that no idea I'm a bit overwhelmed because I don't know that yet
That may well be, at 15 you are exactly at the transition from childhood to adulthood. Don't put yourself under pressure, but slowly get used to the new circumstances. It can be difficult to adjust. At some point you will also realize that the new freedom is not that stupid after all.
