I (29) become increasingly unhappy and slowly get depressed features.
1. Energy balance
I have been working for 6 months and since then everyday life has killed me. I come home and almost fall into the sofa and watch Netflix or gamble. Not because I enjoy it, but because I have nothing else to do. I have a dream job, but it requires a lot of interaction with others. Since I'm introverted, it's incredibly difficult for me to get involved socially after work. My girlfriend is also very tiring, she has to do something all the time and can't sit for a second. So we come to the next problem
2. Hobbies
I can't do anything with myself or her. My ex-girlfriend used to be my best friend. However, I hardly share any hobbies with my current girlfriend. She only likes to walk, shop and go to bars. Things like celebrations, climbing forest, jogging, philosophizing, meeting friends etc. I can't do with her. That's why I go jogging with my best buddy every other day. But I don't really enjoy that. If I want to do something with my work colleagues, it's only a binge drinking, hiking or cycling. I hate to do the three things. I'm an enthusiastic diver, windsurfer and skier. However, these are too expensive for regular exercise. I would also like to do something with friends, but here we come to the next problem.
3. I have no friends and I don't get to know anyone
I got around a lot and lived in different countries and federal states. However, this came at the expense of friendships. If you move again and again, you can't make close relationships. It wasn't a problem in the past because you quickly got to know new people. At almost 30, however, I find that it has become very difficult. My work colleagues are all cool, but they have their own lives or drink themselves full every day. Only my best friend lives with me in the city. However, he does a lot with his girlfriend, often couples evenings. At the beginning I was always there, but my girlfriend doesn't fit in at all. It spreads 0 fun, which displeases the couple. Ultimately, at most I will be invited. Only today 8 people meet at the lake, but my girlfriend doesn't want to because she almost doesn't like anyone. If my best friend had children now, my social life would be over. I'm very afraid of it.
I have no social contacts, I lack energy during the week and when I'm full of energy at the weekend, I lack interests. Actually, I love action, adventure and meeting new people, but since completing my studies, it's not as easy and straightforward as it used to be. I don't know where to start. I lose interest in eating, on weekends and hardly feel any joy.
Maybe you have some advice.
Have you ever thought about volunteering? With animals or with older people? This could open up new perspectives, you would help others and get to know new people.
This YouTube channel helped me out of a very deep depression.
https://www.youtube.com/...iralrescue
In any case, I wish you the best of luck.
How about when you go to a club? Have you ever asked your girlfriend what she's interested in besides her past hobbies? My circle of friends has also shrunk enormously over the years. You are no longer a student hanging out with people who share the same interests every day.
