I've noticed a lot since I've been on Gutefrequest that people no longer have hobbies.
I always like to ask what interests you have. Then comes a funny saying that I use the word hobby (what else can you say? Interests are not hobbies for me either?)
And then usually comes a sentence, jo doesn't know, play football or
I enjoy being out with friends
I don't know, I have no further interest in writing with people like that. You can't even develop topics there. I could list 100 things that I like to do. From cooking to gambling to handicraft.
Why do so many people no longer have their own opinion?
Do you still have hobbies or interests reading this question? Is that the same for you when you write to someone and ask what they like to do. And then just such a stupid sentence comes up, watching football or Netflix, you immediately lose the desire to continue writing with such people?
And why are you attacked so much when you have hobbies? I like to knit, for example. I mean, I'm 20 and I'm proud to have made my own winter hats? And then some people find the hat really nice and then you say you made it yourself and then you are laughed at and called grandma?
I just can't understand, who messed up people so that they only listen to the opinions of "cooler" people?
Where are the people who still have a lot of hobbies and interests?
There are sure to be here on Girlfriend too. But they are not here because of their hobbies and interests, but to ask questions or to provide answers to questions asked. That's why they don't want to write about that here. There are certainly more appropriate forums for what you are looking for.
Yes, thank you, but in the end this is general, regardless of whether it's insta, dating app or FB
Hey yeah i know what you mean It is always the same with small talk, you only get long-wave answers. But I'm no better myself. Had a lot of hobbies and interests, especially creative, would like to learn to draw better, sing and do a few more things. But I think most of them (unfortunately me too) are so overwhelmed with their everyday stress that one no longer has any real motivation for the things that are fun. For example, I just have to study all the time, I'm just doing this for several interviews because of apartments. My mum had an accident (she's better off) I'm looking for someone who goes shopping for her. I always worry about it because nothing fits in my head and then I always think about so many things before going to sleep (overthinking haha) and I wouldn't have the nerve to sit down at the table and what to do paint because I couldn't do it in peace but always had some thoughts in my head about what I still have to do.
Have you already thought about whether there's a possibility that people might also have hobbies that they would rather not hang on to.
So, for example, I also have some hobbies, but now I see no reason to make them public here. Under certain circumstances Girlfriend.net could also be a hobby, so that all users have this hobby.
There are also people who see the German language as their hobby, it is quite possible that they are not particularly enthusiastic about your question…
Well, I'm very sorry for you, but at least you have the thank you and interest there. You would like to, but you just can't.
I think that makes a very big difference to people who have the time but still only do one and the same thing
I thank you for your answer and hope your stress will soon subside and your mother will get well soon
Thank you
Yes you are right. If I had less stress I would like to start something new. Perhaps the people who only do one and the same thing are partly dissatisfied with their life and therefore do not really have this "driving force" and just live there in the hope that something will get better.
Yes of course, that's why it's about writing privately. No matter whether FB, insta or a good question. You get to know people, discuss here and there, tell each other private things and then you ask about interests and nothing comes of that. With me, the conversation usually ends at the point or 10 minutes afterwards, because you can't develop any more topics. At least that's how it is for me. And yes, a good question is of course also an interest
Yes, I also noticed.
Recently, I found totally weird: girlfriend has 3 weeks vacation.
Would normally be on vacation somewhere south or something.
Which is not possible now.
During a phone call she asked what she was doing all the time?
'I'm hanging out on the sofa, you can't do anything.'
Uhh. Yes.
Then she asks me what am I doing?
Me: going for a walk, taking photos, writing, drawing, reading. Cooking with Schatzi in the evening.
She accepted reading, the rest she found 'no sensible occupation'
I was a little confused and said, clearly, get out, move, get busy.
No, that would be boring.
I felt like I was with my 13-year-old niece when she's not in the mood again.
But my girlfriend is 46
…
Sure, anyone who had shopping hauls and the like as a hobby is now on the go.
So to your question: yes, I often get so virulent.
Hobbies passive consumption (watching football, shopping) instead of doing something yourself, occupying yourself instead of being busy (that's what I mean by consumption)
Thanks for your great answer
Yes, that's the way it is for me too. I'm starting to tell, I have just drawn something, photographed my animals and now I read… I'm metaphorically looked at with big eyes
Unfortunately I just can't find any people who think the same way as I do and especially not in today's society.
Stay the way you are and cook lots of delicious things. I'll do it too 👍😊
Yes, there are so many beautiful things in life, but you need to poke them. Your stress will hopefully subside soon and then you will definitely find the time to do something nice
Sorry, I misunderstood the question and got it clear, if you want to establish contact and some people have no hobbies or interests… It is then particularly easy not to write about anything… On the other hand, I can't imagine that there are people who have absolutely no hobbies or interests.
They probably just don't want to talk / write about it…
I have a lot of hobbies and interests. Model making, motorcycles, gun shooting, pyrotechnics, bbq / barbecuing, probing, reading, flying kites.
I don't really know anyone who has "no" hobby or something that interests him / her. This is more likely to be the case with students. In which. My parents have also had no real hobby for decades. They just have a dog. That's it. They used to go bowling more often until the group broke up. My father is currently interested in drones and occasionally rides a motorcycle, but only very sporadically. My mother is kind of not interested in anything. She goes to work, comes home, does the housework - that's it.
I find my buddy who is interested in animes and mangas worse. The guy is 33 and has had this interest since he was 15/16. The bad thing is that every conversation goes more or less in that direction. Whenever we meet, I'm asked every time whether I have seen the anime, constantly some anecdotes from his semester abroad in Japan that was ages ago or general information about Japan. He doesn't notice that I'm not interested
No problem, everyone clearly has interests, but I don't know either. I'm a person I need topics in a conversation. And the bad thing is when you talk about your interests, you usually get no approval, rather dislike how funny you are. But well, I'm optimistic after these great answers here. There are but I just can't find any haha
My mother is just the same… She has zero interests and doesn't even cook. Very bad for me because I've never had a person to teach me, well, I did it great on my own. But I already have the desire to have people with the same interests.
I think your buddy is rather cool. I also like to talk about anime, but on the other hand, I know that with other people. If you are not interested in the topic it is usually unbearable and you have the feeling you are going crazy 😂 give him an announcement to stop talking about anime An
In the last few years I got away from waiting or hoping to find people with the same interests. I tend to be on the offensive. Thanks to Facebook and forums, it has become easy to meet like-minded people. Has always worked well so far
That's how I feel with people who are enthusiastic about football. They talk my head full about any games although I say beforehand that I don't care. I can yawn and even look rudely at my smartphone… They chatter as further.
