So I've already told a little novel about the story with myself and the boy it's about.
Here is a brief summary:
- in the introductory phase for 5 months
-Contact started from him at the beginning
-He always complimented me
-wanted to meet me (which we did)
- he now knows my family and I know his
-He contacted me every day
-a good morning came every morning and a good night every evening
-We always snuggled up when we watched Netflix or Amazon Prime
-If something annoyed him or just what happened, he immediately called me or wrote to me
-he even called me on FaceTime when he was gone with his boys in the evening just because he wanted to see me for a second
-He told me that I care about him
I thought so well so far. His behavior has changed since about 2 weeks. When I wrote him good night in the evening, there was often only a tick on WhatsApp because he always turns off his cell phone at night. Then he wrote less and less. I have been writing to him all the last week, otherwise I would have had no contact with him. And when I wanted to meet him, he just said that he has no time and what would be done with his parents. (I don't say anything against that either, but a few months ago he immediately called another date when we could see each other)
3 days ago I stopped writing it because I was starting to feel really stupid.
and now we don't write anymore. I don't know what happened but I think it's a shame that he doesn't respond. It makes me sad even if we have got no further than to cuddle.
Do you have any idea or tips how to behave?
He got to know another one, quite simply
In such situations, I always ask specifically what's going on. Sometimes it works.
And if not, at least I tried.
In my opinion, there could be several reasons for his behavior.
Either he just took advantage of you, which doesn't seem to me so, and has now lost interest in you.
Or maybe he really doesn't have time, personal problems etc.
You should really talk to him about it to avoid the problems. Call him, so he can't avoid your conversation or negotiate a desired time for phone calls / meetings with him.
If he didn't go into that, I would break the contact, as there's no point in running after him and he would only find this annoying.
Very helpful without giving reasons to name the most depressing of all 10 million possible explanations for his behavior
From the first euphoria, disinterest in you has now arisen
Who can understand something like that?
If nothing happened (he might have noticed that it didn't fit between you) he should at least have had the courage to tell you and not sneak away like that
You certainly hoped for more - the signs were good
Maybe he got to know someone else in the meantime and kept you warm for so long…
Of course, he is not accountable to you, but it's just a matter of character, and fairer if you say clear words
Then you would now know where you are
And you wouldn't have to constantly question everything
I would not run after him because I assume that he will not answer at all
I'm really sorry for you, but sometimes love can hurt…
You will surely find the right partner at some point
If MORE had happened between you now, it would hurt even more in the heart…
In the introductory phase for 5 months
For 5 months in the "getting to know each other?" This may explain his lack of interest. I read somewhere that you have known each other for 9 months.
-Contact started from him at the beginning
Most of the time! Women rarely take the initiative. If you are not active as a man, you usually stay solo!
-He always complimented me
He must have worked hard for you. It is clear that he will give up at some point and look for something new. Sorry, but unfortunately so.
Here is a very appropriate saying I think:
Opportunities are like sunrises, whoever waits too long misses them.
I also find the following sayings helpful:
If you don't show what you feel, you will lose what you love.
Love is made out of courage!
In conclusion, I can only say the following, if you really care about him then you should definitely look for the personal conversation again and tell him. However, it could also be too late. Once the air is out of a "relationship" there's often nothing more to be done.
All the best!
