I, M18 (single), am very optimistic that together we can get this pandemic under control and I think everyone is longing for human contact. That's why I've been following the corona rules since the lockdown (light) in November, when the numbers rose again. And since mid-December anyway.
But I'm slowly getting hurt. At the moment I go to work, then home, eat something and go to bed. This has been going on since December (except New Year's Eve) of the year, 24/7. Netflix, movies, and surfing social media. At the moment I'm only leaving the house for the most essential purchases, that would be groceries and fuel.
Unfortunately, it is also the case that I don't have such a close friend (circle) that I could, at least, meet with someone. Because my year before was not really sparkling or when I just started to find new contacts, e.g. I started going to parties to get to know new people, Corona came and broke everything (so to speak) that I had established contact up to then.
(I'm a little shy of new people, and especially when I only meet one person)
In my generation it is "normal" for most of them to stuff this time with some (online) games. I don't like online games and so many people do that to keep in touch. That's why it's all the more difficult for me to stay in touch with people at all. You chat every now and then and ask how it's done… But everyone and I do the same thing, so there isn't much to talk about. - It is the case that I was the loner even before the pandemic, only I was not aware of how dependent I'm on seeing real, not virtual, human faces without a mask.
It was only last Sunday after the New Year that I left the house for the first time to go for a walk.
This inner emptiness and restlessness is slowly driving me crazy and I have no idea what to do. Because the way things are going now can't go on.
Physically, too, I'm letting myself go further at the moment. Eat completely unhealthy now, my sleep rhythm is broken and I shower, depending on how long I sit at home, sometimes only after 4 days.
What can I do to organize the last few weeks differently or if a third wave comes?
I thank you for every good answer, I'm really at the end at the moment!
What you are describing could be symptoms of depression. I recommend going to a general practitioner and describing your suspicions. This is the best way to judge whether the suspicion is justified.
Depression can be treated well with talk therapy or medication (antidepressants). The sooner this happens, the better the effect. https://www.therapie.de/psyche/info/test/depressionen/depression-test/#_ you can do a self-test as a first orientation.
If you need someone to talk to, feel free to add me as a friend here.
Do the housework, go for a walk in the fresh air.
This corona roller coaster is causing massive problems for all of us. And that this whole situation can lead to social isolation and depression, oh yes, I'm with you there.
The most important thing is actually to get a daily structure. That means, even if there are no appointments, getting up at the same time, arriving too early, getting dressed and not just messing around in the silty look. Who needs Netflix or social media? The good old book does it too, or try to be creative. Doesn't have to be Picasso or Rembrandt. And take specific times when you go for a walk. Make it a duty, it will gradually get better and your mind has a change from the dreary everyday life.
But we're all just happy when the whole… *** is over or it is relaxed enough that you can leave the house with a clear conscience.
All the best SiMo
I would recommend two acute approaches to you.
On the one hand, you should discuss how you are doing with your family doctor. This can then assess whether it makes sense to refer you to a therapist if it really should be in the direction of clinical depression. Important, because this is a disease for which you need professional support, like a broken leg or an inflammation.
On the other hand, I would advise you to force yourself to do a little more for yourself at the points where you let yourself go! And tell yourself again and again that YOU are worth it. Until you believe it and start to feel the same way.
In addition, you should - even and especially on days off - keep the usual daily rituals if possible. So, don't sleep forever, eat regular meals, practice personal hygiene and, as far as is currently possible, go out. 10, 15 minutes walk around the block, possibly also daily grocery shopping, getting bread from the bakery (YOU are worth it!) - everything that is possible.
This time is getting to us all in some way. Everybody a little different, for everyone something different is the focus of missing and lacking, but we all suffer in some form. In my opinion, it is all the more important that you don't lose sight of yourself and actively look for something that makes you feel better somehow!
By the way, in the last few months I have come to jigsaw puzzles and listening to podcasts and audio books (via the online loan of my city library and Spotify) as a mix of balance, relaxation and "switching off" from the world. Put on your headphones, let yourself be told, and keep your fingers and eyes busy with the puzzle - that's really good for me! Maybe something like that would be something for you too?
You can always leave the house with a clear conscience.
Of course you can, but there are enough people who don't dare to go on the streets, are unsure because they want to avoid other people. Because of Corona, in the absence of intervals, because they are perhaps older or previously ill.
There's a saying about it:
If you are dead then you do not know that you are dead. It is just hard for the others. This is exactly how it is when you are stupid.
