In the last year of my school days I finally found a really great friendship group consisting of 5/6 people with me.
We all get on really well with each other and I get on very well with the people individually, even though the others have known each other for a lot longer (since 5th grade).
For a while we did a lot in the group and I often went to Netflix & Chill with a friend from the group after school and we really wrote a lot.
Because of Corona we could not meet at the moment, but now that the conditions have slowly relaxed again, I have often written that we absolutely have to meet again etc and since a friend also has problems with bacteria etc., I have also accepted that he didn't want to meet or didn't want us all to come to his apartment and hang out. It's understandable.
Also, that he and the others haven't really written to me lately is understandable because we were all in the Abistress-
I thought, but then I found out that my girlfriend even spoke to him on the phone quite often and that they also made appointments more often, even with Corona & chilled out with him.
But when I suggested a meeting from time to time it always said "soon it will work again (in relation to Corona)" or when we wrote it was always totally short (he doesn't like to call, he always meant) and also my girlfriend was on the phone when it came to it so weird, I had to keep the conversation going somehow and she always did other things and didn't really talk. And no, the two of them are definitely not together if you consider that😂
In any case, I somehow feel "aside" if you know what I mean. And also a little bit incinerated. I mean why don't you want to meet me? There was no quarrel or anything like that in front of Corona, everything was good, but anyway I'm somehow only the second choice and I don't feel like it. It really kills me because in the past I was only used and exploited by people & for the first time I had the feeling that I belonged somewhere and found real friends.
Maybe I'm too sensitive because of my previous experience, but I'm so afraid that the contact breaks off after school and I'm alone again.
I mean why does my buddy not even invite me to sleep with him or write to me on his own.
why don't my friends even want to meet me or talk to me on the phone?
I'm so tired of just being the 2nd choice. I don't know what I'm doing wrong or different?
Maybe you have some good advice.
Vill, your buddies got a lot of worksheets to work through the week, meanwhile things are going better with home school or some are sitting for 3-4 hours on the tasks. If you do little for school now, it will be very difficult for the next school year.
Are you sure that nothing runs between your girlfriend and your best friend? Sounds like that…
Otherwise, I would advise you not to be too pushy. The worst thing that can happen is that you appear very "in need". You could also expand your circle of friends and try to make new contacts. The best thing is to speak to your friends about it and otherwise be relaxed and friendly, but not too pushy.
I know that only too well. I don't know your friends but I would write your situation to them (not too long and make sure that you don't throw anything at your friends' heads, which may not be true because it can also backfire). I didn't know why I was expelled for months… I had the feeling that they were doing it on purpose and found it funny… I then spoke to them and then had to listen to me that I simply no longer fit in with no real reason and I still don't know what I'm wrong with have made. The truth sometimes hurts a lot (still bothering me to this day), but in retrospect they were simply not (best) friends
I know 😌 have you ever thought about whether you are too strenuous? Not meant bad…
My experience was more that I had the feeling that I was overwhelming the people 😌
Of course, it could also be that you just want too much. We now live in a cold world and the situation at the moment doesn't make it any better.
To say that too much ambition can be a hindrance. No matter what.
If you have had this experience several times, it must be up to you. I have a few years ahead of you and I finally decided that most people are just empty 😌
Not you are weird they are! The term * old soul * helped me a lot to understand. Maybe you can do something with it. An elderly gentleman once said that to me in a Turkish restaurant.
Don't be sad, you will meet people like you and me at some point in your life. 😌 Human.
Don't stick to people who aren't worth it and focus on yourself. You will see the world and your point of view will change. Strengthen your self-confidence! You don't have to be afraid of being alone. If you are strong in the head people will come to you and want to be your "friends".
Maybe I twisted expressions but I think in essence you understand what I mean ☺️
Don't hang your head, you don't have to because you are different and stronger than you think 😉 you just have to concentrate on it.
All the best
What? We wrote our exams 😂 we no longer had a school
Wow thanks 😳😊
