I wanted to tell you about my relationship and ask for advice and your honest opinion.
I met my boyfriend about 5 months ago and we've been together for a little more than 3 months. He's also my first friend but not his first friend. (both 19 years)
Sometimes I feel like I'm with a child. Sometimes I feel like I'm talking to a wall. Sometimes he doesn't understand how serious the situation is or he doesn't care, I don't know for sure. He's sometimes quite pushy or when we can't meet he says it's not a problem he understands that but the closer the day comes when we don't meet he always says "yes, it's a shame" or "yes, you wanted to don't meet you "Then I always feel guilty. But I think I also have friends with whom I would like to meet. And if I meet them during the week, he doesn't think it's great and we don't meet on the weekend either…
If we e.g. With me we're only at home and I often tell him we don't want to do anything or go outside, but he says that's all LW. But in the middle of the night with the car to Mc if he wants it then it works… And mostly we always do the same we watch something on Netflix and then we end up in bed again and I've already told him a couple of times that it bothers me and me I'm not his sex slave either, I also want to experience things with him and not a relationship only with sex…
He also said yes we can't always eat out because of the money and I understand that. But then he buys for himself e.g. Completely unnecessary things or 10 sweaters the 100.- costs… I don't quite understand… He also came to me recently and said he had bills that he couldn't pay… And he wanted to ask me for money a couple of times but he asked always his colleagues…
I don't know if I simply have a different way of thinking or a different picture of a relationship than he does or if I'm too grown up for him?
I mean I'm always happy when I'm with him, I really love him. But when I think about it like that sometimes I don't know exactly how it works…
What would you do in my situation?
Thank you so much! Sometimes it helps extremely to pour out your heart.
What you should do in this situation is your decision alone. What I would definitely keep in your place are the meetings with your friends. Otherwise, relationships can quickly become toxic if the partner takes you over completely. At 19, many people are also not mature enough to be able to lead a relationship in a reflective way, so with the lack of maturity you could be right. To me, your problems sound very typical for my age and I, too, have had such experiences. Perhaps your relationship will fail because of this, but beforehand I would actively seek the conversation in a calm and relaxed situation and explain the seriousness of the situation and first wait and see how and whether his behavior changes and your relationship then changes
First of all you have to be clear about whether you want to continue doing this?
The first problem: he can't save. The second: you don't do anything anymore and just sit at home because everything is too expensive for him when it comes to tight spots. I think it's pretty sad.
Maybe you do not fit together or it is just a brief phase… It is difficult to judge this based on your brief description.
Many thanks.
No problem.
If you don't want something he does to you in bed, you have to tell him that and that immediately.
at the moment it is difficult to do things and there's not much left. You have to compromise in a relationship. You just like him.
but you don't have to put up with everything. If you are already not happy about basic things after such a short time. Dan finish it
You have gone differently. But nothing more. Stop talking to him. He can't really expect her to sit in the booth weekend after weekend. Make it clear to him that it's not just his weekend, but yours and you like to do something on your weekends. Show him that you are not forcing him, but otherwise, of course, you prefer to do something with your friends. He can and should always accept meetings with friends.
Okey thank you very much.
To me it doesn't sound like it's a great relationship with a future.
Hoping that "everything will get better at some point" usually doesn't work - on the contrary.
You may be confusing the familiarity that comes with his presence with love.
In my experience, the right partner is the one in whose presence you feel comfortable and in whom you never get bored - even and especially if you don't distract yourself with sex, friends, TV, going out or the like. At the same time, however, you have to have enough freedom and be able to spend time alone or with friends without being accused by the other.
I would try a breakup and look for another partner. You will see that it will soon be just as "beautiful" and "familiar" with this one, and you will wonder why you waited so long…
Be nice to each other!
R. Driving
Hmm okey i don't know.
