My parents annoy me every day that I have to go out and meet friends. I'm 16, currently on summer vacation and spend my time in my room with Netflix & Co. I know this isn't a "good" or productive pastime, but I just don't feel like doing anything else. I'm glad that I can just sleep in and not have to worry about anything… In theory.
Really EVERY day my parents spoil my mood by asking me when I will finally go out. Sometimes they even get really angry when I say that I don't feel like it. Then there's always something like "so at your age I was outside every day…". That totally annoys me.
I also don't think it's good that I don't go out. I just don't feel like it, but I would like to, but don't know how. I don't have a lot of friends and the ones I have live too far away to be able to meet spontaneously. I also don't feel 100% comfortable with them. And I'm not allowed to go out alone. Whenever I meet them, it's only because I hope that there'll be a few days off. But on the contrary: They still keep arriving and want to motivate me to go out.
No matter how often I tell my parents that I like to be alone in my room, my parents just don't want to listen and threaten me with sending me to a psychologist or something. They say that I'm "rotting" in my room. But maybe I want that too. I just don't feel like doing anything and want to be alone. What should I do? I just want to be left alone.
I hope someone can help me or has already had similar experiences.
In your environment there's definitely some nature where you can be outside & alone. Grab your bike and ride around a bit, I loved doing that in my free time.
There you are outside, alone and doing something more meaningful than squatting in front of the media.
Have fun 🙋
I'm only 13, but I'm in a phase like that at the moment, I think that's normal
and especially if you don't want to go out alone then maybe buy a skateboard (if you feel like it) and then you can learn to skateboard with tricks and everything, maybe you go out alone
if your parents don't want to buy you a skateboard (or whatever you want), bring up an argument that you would go out more often, that convinces them they trust me.
You are addicted… You put Netflix over reality I give you the tip for a month without getting along, then your desire also changes, even if you can't imagine it will work, nothing can happen if you do it, you probably will spend the first few days being tired.
Even if you can't imagine it will work, believe in yourself.
Did your parents forget that we have Corona!
Tell them the day will come when they would like you to be home.
You shouldn't just hang in front of the TV, though.
You should understand that you want to recover first.
Just tell them that you need time for yourself first.
And that your friends live further away, they will certainly know.
Happy Holidays!
I used to be the same as you. Today I adore it because I lost all friends to squatting at home. But they weren't very good either. Do what you want and not what others say.
