Girlfriend can't say anything in education?

The child of my girlfriend is allowed to watch Netflix / TV around the clock or to paddle with the phone, whether he was nice or not. And that with 4.

Go, I think, not at all.

And woe you say something against her child, or her education, it is already underdeveloped, according to Doc.

What should I do there?

Unfortunately you can't do anything. Although sad about the child, but unfortunately the parents can "educate" their children as they wish. Now it's easy for your girlfriend to park the kid in front of the TV. Employing her is probably too boring or too exhausting. As you say, the child is already showing developmental delays. These will increase rapidly and later it will get great difficulties in kindergarten, school and also in life. Even therapies can't do everything that was missed in childhood. This is a pity, but you can't do anything except talk to your girlfriend plain language and offer her your support. But ultimately she decides.

This is really a stupid situation in which you are there. It is clear that you will know that if the doctor already speaks of a regressed child, there's a danger to the child's welfare here. So you could turn on the youth welfare office.

But it is also clear that you can't be active in education even if the mother does not want that. That she feels attacked when you criticize her education is also normal with mothers. A kind of protective mechanism. They always think their education is perfect, even if that is not the case sometimes.

The problem you probably have is that you do not dare to take a step to the youth welfare office of love for your wife. However, if talking does not help with it, it is necessary. In principle, you do not have to be scared that the child will be taken from her. As a rule, one tries to leave the child in his usual environment and to support only the parents in the education and if you put it that way, maybe a bit to monitor or check.

Yes, it always seems to me that she is simply overwhelmed with education.

Exactly. This is often the case, and that's why it needs support. Of course it is easier to put the child in front of the television than to teach him important values. But of course, as you know, the totally wrong way.

At the latest when it comes to school it is educated. If it is not upbringing, the child has to stay home. Then the mother has to come up with something quickly.

How is the child coping with kindergarten at the moment?

But then comes again the tiresome topic, that she does not want support and somehow manages it. She does not even go out to the playground with her son or anything. The highest of feelings is in the pool or something, but only at the request of her mother.

So according to girlfriend, he is often marginalized or even offended by the other children. And she probably already had one or two conversations there because of conspicuous behavior. For example, If the children had to sing in the group, everyone had to hold a kind of tea light in their hands. Her son was busy with everything but singing. Even the other kids have already said something. Or at St. Martin's performance, he was taken out because he could not sit quietly.

Or he always runs through the store shouting while shopping, sometimes just grabs what he wants. He already knows exactly where something stands.

Then comes the standard sentence: It's just a kid

Then the extra for the child to buy a TV in the kindergarten or deny it.

I have never seen a TV in kindergarten

Then the mother should urgently come up with something. I can't imagine that she just accepted that way.

Apparently, he also has language problems. But what do you think, who organized the speech therapist? Not her, but her mother. Then it always comes: He is what he is. I do not have to change my child to bending and breaking.

Of course you do not have to change it, just promote it