My girlfriend has changed a lot? What can I do if the following things are present?

I'm now 4 years with my girlfriend together. For 2 years she has changed rather into the negative, since she has nen head office in the office. She looks very dominant, which of course my family does not like. She turns 30 soon and occasionally points to the ring finger because we're the only one not married in her circle of friends and family. And adds extra pressure, saying that the biological clock is running out, because at some point there will be a risk pregnancy. Sure, where we had met and a year later, we were united to get married and have children. I've been rowing back a bit now and will not be happy in my life as it is at the moment. We also have sex only once a month, although I could do it several times a day. Sex is not important to her, me. The next point is that I still live officially with dad and mom around 30, but hardly see her because I'm with my girlfriend. I'm currently still waiting for a house which unfortunately has moved but judicially to next year. Only when that works with the house then we move together. But I made it clear to my girlfriend when getting to know the first house then children, we agreed. The current but what bothers me even more is that we drive almost every other week to the small children of their family and friends. Is always 3 hours drive from home. I'm a physically heavy-bodied person who can switch off at the weekend by watching Netflix or chilling with my parents on the farm. I just need this rest. I have always been black in the last time and did not feel well. Mom said that is because my body does not come to rest and I drive away on the weekend and can't turn off. My girlfriend always says the little kids are a kind of exercise for later. I do not know what I should practice there, you do that later out of instinct. To be honest, at the moment I can't even do anything with kids and I do not feel anything when I'm around. Vlt it is also because I do not want to have any children, or only have the house upside down. But to tell that to my girlfriend would certainly be a reason for separation. Is a great friend, makes a lot for me yes, but should I cancel now on the weekend because she wants to go away again on Sunday or ride? Dad also promised to help him. She always means that I think only of myself and selfish. What can I do? For all detailed tips and advice, I would be very grateful. Ask me if something is unclear, thank you in advance in advance.

First of all, before you talk about it on the internet, you should talk about the problems with your girlfriend. If that does not work then the relationship does not make sense.

Otherwise you can understand your girlfriend already. You have been together for 4 years, but still live separated, or even with your 30 years, even with your parents.

Since the thing with the home is irrelevant. You are looking for a shared apartment.

If you read the question that way, your girlfriend seems to be quite successful in the job and is also in her prime. Logically, that's where she builds the pressure.

You are the one who does not follow.

Most of my circle of acquaintances (also all around 30) are contracted after about one year, after about 2-3 years came the wedding and the child.

You're 30 years old, still living with your parents and let a four-year relationship drag here, in which you hide yourself from a (eventually coming) home purchase.

There you should question yourself.

I guess your girlfriend will say goodbye soon.

P.S.: Even if you have children, then chilling on the weekend is over as well.

On the other hand, one should also take into account that the two still do not live together after 4 years and he still lives with his parents.

In place of the girlfriend, I would not only put some pressure, but put the gun on his chest.

When I read the question that way, I get the impression that he is the type of "mother-son" who prefers to live in the circle of his parents, instead of dealing with their own family and future planning.

At least I can't explain otherwise that the relationship does not progress even after 4 years.

He is only apparently with his parents. He writes that he is with the girlfriend and is probably only registered with the parents.

He has his own house in view. He lives with his girlfriend and is officially registered with his parents. I did not have the impression that he wanted to move back to his parents. At least that did not sound like that to me. And to wait 4 years for the right apartment together is not unusual, if you have some ideas or build your own house together. My husband and I also spent three years looking for a suitable flat together and had to live a separate life until then and we were already married. It always depends on the housing market.

Well, in her place, I would have shot him long ago on the moon.

For me, it sounds like you are living apart and everyone is taking a different path. She changes her job because of what you and your family displease, you need more peace and do not get them. She puts pressure on marrying and starting a family where at 29 you are still far from having the biological clock running out. Somehow, you both no longer pull together.

Now the question is whether in a joint conversation they still come to a common denominator and find each other again or whether these scissors are already so far apart that it would be better to make a cut. I would not delay that too long and certainly not until you have the house but talk to her in a timely manner how she perceives your relationship and if she still feels comfortable.