I have been thinking about whether I should ask this question because it is quite private, but I would also like to hear other opinions.
My 15 year old daughter has changed a lot in the past few months and I'm starting to get worried.
In the past, she was interested in her looks, dressed up in the morning, made up, wore nice clothes, etc. Of course you don't have to put on make-up, but it's just that she now always goes to school with sweatpants and a wide t-shirt. It doesn't matter to her.
Her grades got worse in the last math test she had a 4.
She still meets with her best friend, but she has not mentioned her other friends for a long time.
I have often tried to find a way to ask for it, she always said everything was fine. Otherwise we also have a good relationship and talk about a lot.
She also paid attention to her diet beforehand. We always had a healthy and balanced diet and she was playing football in the sports club. She doesn't do that anymore now, but prefers to spend her evenings in bed with a bag of chips and netflix.
I'm starting to know that I really don't want to go wrong.
I would be very happy to receive answers
May be that she is depressed. I would say it's a phase, but it goes away after a while. I would do something with her in her place.
If she didn't look depressed now, I wouldn't be too worried. Is probably just a zero goof phase
Is normal.
I used to be jeans, but then all of a sudden I was just a tracksuit, sweatpants and so on.
There are times when you don't feel like it, or you don't have the worth looking good anymore because you notice that it doesn't work, I don't know what the girls expect when they put on make-up and so on but maybe too much. Maybe she noticed that it doesn't work if you do that.
Another topic is the eighth nutrition and so on. If she really does not care in a big perspective, she could be lacking in energy or in a depressive phase, somehow every second girl of this age is depressed nowadays, can have a variety of reasons, but this is also not abnormal since, as I said, it occurs frequently.
At this age, many have a phase where they don't care and just want to chill out, or just get into depression, but if it gets bad you should seek psychological help for your daughter. In other words, if she has self-harm, life-tired thoughts or the like, but in phases this is not a worrying problem.
Funny, maybe she has problems with her social environment and has little success. Then that's logical
So I never had such a phase (I'm 19) but what I can give you as a tip:
Don't put pressure on them or keep talking to them. Because then she is annoyed and you can't get anything out of her. Rather ask inconspicuously what is going on. Or it starts telling itself.
You say she didn't mention her boyfriend anymore. Maybe she also has a heartache?
So that she is depressed… Hmm. I have neither changed my appearance (i.e. Clothes etc.) nor greatly my behavior. Nobody noticed how deep I fell into a black hole. But it's different for everyone.
It's different for everyone☺️
