I'm 21 and have just been in a bad mood for a long time, have barely any friends and just hang out after work, watch netflix or Zock 1-2 games and go to sleep. I'm always very listless, even if I have to do some important things, I prefer to lie down and relax. Am a very calm and self-contained person who never talks about problems or feelings because I'm afraid that my "hard shell" will break. I still go to party from the beginning, but from the beginning I already have a feeling that it is going to be a stupid evening…
Mostly I do not have a good picture of myself, I see bad for my future, hopelessness. Really no idea what to do now.
can vlt somehow help me or give me some tips, if you like that?
Do a rehab that will do you good.
Do a rehab in Heviz (Hungary). This is a radon bath. There's also a cycling lake. Glorious.
I think that you will come back to Germany with a good mood.
I have to get my life on the line here before I even think of something like foreign.
How do you want to win friends or create something, if you just hang in front of the telly? This is a downward spiral that can actually lead to depression. You have to break it.
Make you little success. Write down a list of the things you need to do. Also write down trifles (bring down garbage). And then pick up everything you've done. With every hook you have a sense of achievement that shows you that it is going ahead and gives you energy to do the next thing. And add the list constantly with each new task. The writing down has the advantage that the task is clearly defined and you have it out of your head, where it only blocks you, as long as you do not.
And go out. Go among people. Become e.g. Member of a sports club. Or arrange to meet people (one or more) that you know, to things that may make you meet new people. Barbecue in the park. Go to the cinema. Bike ride to the Baggersee make.
I recommend you to stop gambling with a radical step: Throw away your games and the console, uninstall them. Just make it impossible to play "just for a minute" and then hang on for hours. Do not be afraid, no "yes, but…". Jump over your shadow! It will make you easier! Nobody really needs games. This is a waste of time that can make you sick and lonely.
And instead of watching TV, my reading experience is much better. No fiction books, but novels that simply kidnap you into another world and distract your thoughts positively. Advantage over television: You do not become random and zap again here and there, and you also improve your language skills.
I'm actually doing that with the list and the check, since I also often forget something.
All you have said here is easy to say "go to the park, get to know people" now seriously who goes to a park, cinema, or anywhere and addresses people for business or other purposes. Too shy for that.
So, first of all, I've already been in the cinema alone (or in the foyer before) talking to people. But I actually meant: Go with someone else together. For example, a colleague. Or arrange to have a barbecue with several colleagues in the park.
It's not just about expanding your circle of acquaintances. It's about not spending time alone.
Friends are like a snowball: the more you know, the more new ones you get.
Of course not on call. These are coincidences and opportunities that can't be forced. But as long as you hang out at home, you force them to definitely NOT happen.
And even if new people do not come so quickly: One, two good friends, with whom you spend a lot of time together, can be far enough - depending on the type.
