First a short introduction what it is about.
I'm 16 years old and have been in contact with a girl for about 3 months who is the daughter of friends of ours who used to barbecue with her in the summer. After the evening we exchanged numbers and first 2 months or so written.
We always had meetings ahead of us, but until recently it never happened. That was also the reason that we had not written for a while, because I was a bit disappointed that there was so little interest on their part.
Now 5 days ago was a party in a club where she was with her friends and me with a buddy. We hugged each other in greeting, but otherwise did not do much together that evening. That was the first time we have seen each other after our first meeting at the barbecue…
From the time after the party we started to write again and arranged to meet in town for 2 days. Our meeting in the city was very funny and we talked a lot. Besides, I used to watch horror films with her in the Skype call at night, which was always fun. The next day we met directly in the city again and were eating ice cream and sparrow.
Then on Saturday we were together, ie me and four other friends of her in an ice disco - ice skating. There we often skated hand in hand with two of us, sang along the songs, had fun and laughed a lot. In addition, came on the ice surface when I was driving alone, a friend of her to me and asked me if I believe that it is between her and me something.
Now it's just that she has a kind of 'friend' with whom she has NEVER done anything private, as one of her friends told me.
Now it is with me, however, that I develop Gefule for them beyond the likes. I'm not sure what to do now. Should I tell her my feelings and ask what she feels / thinks? Or is it too early and should I rather give it time and see what develops?
I hope you understand everything. I look forward to your comments and tips!
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Huh, okay, that's pretty complicated with you.
So she does not seem to be uninterested, that's good.
If I were you, I would not confess, in the sense of telling her that you're in love with her or that you're falling in love with her. That could take her by surprise, also because she has a "friend".
Just a little something about her friend: do not let that make you feel insecure. If she does not do anything with him, but rather the WhatsApp relationship, then she does not seem to have strong feelings for him. So you have chances.
I think you should definitely continue to chat with her and let it resonate in the chat over and over again, that you want more than friendship. Show true interest in her by asking her questions (but do not overwhelm her with that, but let her ask) and occasionally compliment her. Also, arrange for another meeting where you can become more intimate. In principle, you have held hands before, but you could intensify that. Why do not you go to the movies for a horror movie? Then you can take her hand and maybe she will cuddle up to you.
This is basically a form of confession, you do not hold a tray with anyone. Pay attention to their reaction and maybe then the first kiss is not far away.
Thank you for the tip! Yeah, I actually wanted to go to Joker with her today, or Es 2, but she said she does not have time. And then, when I wrote to her today and she spoke to her about what she was doing, she meant Netflix… I do not know exactly how to interpret it. Did not she just want to see me? Or she was not allowed to… Whatever, I'm scared to surprise her by asking for a meeting, do you know what I mean?
You already seem to be friends and she also really likes you, which is already very good.
So if she has a boyfriend whom she supposedly never met, that's weird, maybe you should find out more about it, or if she's already on him, before you tell her your feelings.
I think I'd wait a bit more with the confession, it seems only 5 months to be, so first look how it all goes on.
In your place, I would give the whole time first. If you've already confessed it to her and she has not developed any feelings for you, it could endanger your friendship too.
Okay… That's very strange. So do not ask her, why she had no time for you today, that always seems more intrusive.
Still, I would not say flat-rate that she's not interested in you. Maybe she does not feel well today or just did not feel like it today. This is strange, but do not think too long about it.
It would be best to chat with her a bit more and ask her again in a few days.
Yeah, I just wrote a bit with her and asked her what she's up to Halloween. She said she is from 30 -31 with a friend. Then I asked her if she would like to do something on Thursday. Then came the answer: 'It depends what but jo'und not more. Whenever I wrote to her earlier if we wanted to do something, there were never any ideas from her and only from me. Also, somehow she does not seem interested at all when we write about whatsapp but when we meet then she is completely different. Do you have an idea why that is?
The behavior I would not have expected from her when I read through your description. Funny thing is that she is totally uninterested in the chat, but if you meet then it seems like she is interested.
Even if that's because of her boyfriend, that she just has feelings for him and wants to keep you at a distance, that explains at least her disinterest in the chat, but not why she shows affection in your meetings.
Can you find out I think only with her, because nobody can tell you here. I would not address them directly, but you might first scare off their general interest by letting the chat fade away a bit, i. You chat with her for a moment, but do not ask any more questions, so the chat comes to rest. And then you wait. If she's really interested, she'll write to you sometime.
You could also take your hand at your next meeting and watch their reaction. Then you basically made her a confession. That costs overcoming, but at least you know afterwards.
Thanks for the many tips! I'll take it into consideration 👍 If I do not forget it, I'll tell you how it went 🙄 but this morning, for example, she was the first one to write 'na haha'. I do not know if she thinks I do not want her, but I've already complimented her so much, you'd have to have tomatoes on your eyes so as not to see that I have feelings for her. Well, I'll see how it develops.
Yes, you have to report.
That sounds good.
Be sure to get the chat, so show interest, ask her questions, etc.
And try, as I said, to meet you. Then you can make body contact, so hug them, take their hand, etc. And let them feel that you want more than friendship.
Then it will be fine.
