I got to know a girl 17 about 1.5 months ago at a party. We got along very well and met her a few days later, had dinner and then with her, where she introduced me directly to her mother etc. Nothing has happened yet, except cuddling.
She was very interested and wanted to meet directly again. Before that, we talked for about 5 hours and she was really exhausting me on how to tick in a relationship, etc.
At the second meeting I was directly with her and we looked at her in bed Netflix, after a while she kissed me, we made around. I realized that more would be possible, but I wanted to signal to her that we do not have to rush things and that she is something special for me, which is why it did not happen.
In the evening I wanted to take the last train, but missed him and had to stay with her (her suggestion). From now on everything was very distant, she wanted to sleep right away and the next morning she ignored me, looked at her cell phone.
I drove home soon, we did not even hug ourselves anymore… When I got home, she wrote how nice she found it, I ask if she wants to call again in the evening to find out what was going on, but she did not answer.
I went a little distance and after a few days she wrote me, I was confused, she did not telen again, said she had no time (she was 2 weeks on vacation). Also on my question, if she wants to meet again came just look for school etc.
After about 1 week I just had to be direct and asked her if something had happened because she was so far away (not telen, did not write me back or only very shortly). She said that there was nothing going on and just went outside. She said she was torn and I let it stay, because I felt really stupid (so good, very close, and then suddenly nothing left of her…). So I wrote "It was nice to meet you" and suddenly she said her ex had reappeared / reason for her behavior.
After a few days I asked:
Me: Does that mean your ex has reappeared in plain language, that you come back with him zsm and the thing has settled with us?
You: It will probably come to that.
That was about 1 month ago.
She still had PBs in Whatsapp where it said "maybe I'll meet again and I'll be right for you and you for me" or "I did what I love" and they all showed that probably did not work with her ex.
I've deleted them everywhere (Insta etc), deleted their number but not blocked them because I could not give these pictures anymore.
How should I best deal with the matter and are its signs clear?
I do not want to accuse the girl… But it seems like she wants sex for the first time (no relationship). And after that it did not come to that…
I think, how should not serious anything but a boy with whom she can distract himself so to speak. Because of her ex boyfriend. So she does not have to think about him anymore and does not suffer.
Do not contact her for a while. If she contacts you then you will be important to her if she does not answer then let her go.
She's just looking for one who distracts her.
How often? It's more than clear, she wants her ex back.
She just got into it, asked how I see a relationship (she was of the same opinion etc) talking about plans with me etc and then…
That's just the hard thing
