I (m, 18) he (m, 18) have been in a relationship for about 4 months.
We quickly fell in love with each other and got to know our friends and a couple of family members etc.
We spend at least 2 days a week, sometimes longer. I recently lived with him for 12 days (he has his own apartment).
We usually harmonize well with each other, but sometimes I have a bad feeling.
Once we talked on the car and somehow it happened (probably said something nonsensical) that he said: "You are cute even if you are a bit stupid / hollow."
of course I was completely angry and I told him that too. He apologized and said that sometimes he thinks people are stupid because he can't keep up with his knowledge. At this point I would like to say that he simply has a good basic knowledge, that's what he means.
he apologized, said how much he loved me and that he didn't mean it. But let's be honest - how should I know that he doesn't really mean it. It can only be so shot from the cannon.
I also don't think he compromises in our relationship. He loves a certain series on Netflix that I don't particularly like. But because the final season came out and he wanted to watch it with me, I loved watching the previous first season. I really struggled with the series but it was for him. Because he was so excited about her.
but when I wanted to watch one of my favorite films with him he had no desire and did not want to.
I mean, is it really that hard to watch your friend's favorite movie with him? I do not think so
and what has already happened:
when we had wixxted together and he came before me he just pretended that we were both "done"
whereby I felt very uncomfortable. After all, it is about both of us and it is a shame that he just doesn't think about micb. He even got up twice and already wanted to do something else, so I even had to ask him to lie down until I was done. I found that pretty disappointing.
what do you think? Sure he did so many sweet things for me and he really invites me to every celebration and takes me everywhere to the regular Sunday meals with his parents in the restaurant.
but how would you interpret the situation and what would you advise me?
According to your description of the first impression, it seems to me that it is an unequal relationship: a donor and recipient relationship. It takes more from you than it gives you. It's very common. Try talking to him about it. But is only my opinion based on the knowledge I got from your description. I'm not an expert
You should talk to him seriously and tell him that a relationship needs compromise. My friend had to learn that first. He also has a very good basic knowledge and considers himself smarter than others. I have told him several times that he shouldn't say that, sounds pretty conceited to me etc. And he doesn't say it that often anymore. I could also show him how important compromises are so that both feel good. But as I said, just talk to him, seriously tell him what bothers you, that will clear up. And don't be so strict with him. It will take time to "change".
There are problems in every respect. The easiest solution is to talk about it.
It's also important to compromise. Yes, you shouldn't always be the focus. Everyone should have a certain selfishness ^^
I see no reason to end the relationship here. Just talk to each other!
It's nice when compromises are made in a relationship and one is considerate of the other. But you should also be able to simply respect if someone doesn't feel like doing something or needs his freedom. People are different and have different soft spots.
Just because you tortured yourself through his series is not a claim that he has to give back unchanged. With sex now there should be talked about, that both experience their satisfaction as possible.
By the way there are 100,000 women who are (although unfortunately) mostly unsatisfied after sex.
Why shouldn't your relationship continue? If you two are at least 70% doing well? 30% is always relationship work, talking, respecting and possibly compromises etc.