I'm in my first relationship at 21 and everything is actually nice, but somehow I'm missing something. Since my friend always has to work long hours, we only see each other on weekends, i.e. 1/2 times a week, but write every day.
But somehow I don't really know what to talk to him about, I'm someone I prefer to listen to rather than tell, because I'm almost always at home and experience nothing and therefore have nothing to tell.
When we meet, we go out to eat, drink, go to the cinema, billiard, city or go for a walk, but are usually finished after 2/3 hours and then drive to him for the day, then only lie in bed and watch Netflix and that was it.
If I'm with him then I can forget all my problems and stress and just switch off, so it is with him, and lying in bed with him is also super nice, time goes by too quickly… But somehow I miss it general something.
I thought that when you're in a relationship, you just do a lot more, my friend said that unlike the others, we do a lot because his friends are almost always at home and maybe only eat once a month or so… Then I thought that maybe I only had other ideas about that. He is always open to suggestions about what you could do but I just can't think of anything.
Somehow it all feels like friendship with sex… I don't know that something is missing that I can't describe. I love him and don't want to lose him either, because he is important to me and I'm incredibly happy every time to see him and the time with him even if we should only be in bed is nice. The retraction is just that I somehow feel no bond with him where I think we're one… Even with sex not. Had my first time with him and thought that it would feel so nice and that you would feel closer or just different but it wasn't that way, just think it's sex.
As I said, this is also my first relationship and in terms of relationship it simply had different ideas and expectations too high
Has anyone had the same experience or similar problems?
Maybe you are a person who needs closeness. Was with me too, that's why I "moved" to him so I slept with him every day (but also worked together so the same way) There are people who need closeness more than others and if we're honest, You can only see whether a relationship lasts when you live with the person. Living with his family in advance also showed us that it went very well with us because we were just those who needed to be close.
And you could do something with your friends in the evening, go for a drink, etc? There's not much more you can do in the world of work.
Perhaps it is because you are reluctant and can't approach new things.
I'm in my first relationship at 21 and everything is actually nice, but somehow I'm missing something. Since my friend always has to work long hours, we only see each other on weekends, i.e. 1/2 times a week, but write every day.
But somehow I don't really know what to talk to him about, I'm someone I prefer to listen to rather than tell, because I'm almost always at home and experience nothing and therefore have nothing to tell.
When we meet, we go out to eat, drink, go to the cinema, billiard, city or go for a walk, but are usually finished after 2/3 hours and then drive to him for the day, then only lie in bed and watch Netflix and that was it.
If I'm with him then I can forget all my problems and stress and just switch off, so it is with him, and lying in bed with him is also super nice, time goes by too quickly… But somehow I miss it general something.
I thought that when you are in a relationship, you just do a lot more, my friend said that unlike the others, we do a lot because his friends are almost always at home and maybe only eat once a month or so… Then I thought that maybe I only had other ideas about that. He is always open to suggestions about what you could do but I just can't think of anything.
Seems like you hardly have anything to do without him?
The problem has nothing to do with him because he does everything right everything actually goes well
So I'm just imagining the problem?
Y / the problem is there but it has nothing to do with your friend
What are your hobbies and what are you interested in? You probably need more things that you like to do, alone for yourself or with other friends
Never said he was the problem.
Reads so ^^
Demand and reality are always two different things.
1) Unfortunately, the claim stems far too much from the film advertisement. Happy couples dance ecstatically in the disco, laugh exuberantly with friends or roar along the lonely coastal road in a convertible.
2) Reality: You are wage workers in capitalism. At 21, that's no sugar licking. The times you speak of are called reproductive times. This serves to REPRODUCE the worker. This means that the working woman and the working man should relax on the weekend. And so it is prompt: The two lie on the couch and watch Netflix. But you still go for a walk, that's something.
But you are young, so please, something has to happen again. I'm just going to bring my love and me as an example that we still hold on to two things, old as we're now.
At the beginning I said to her: "I'm going to the Millerntor, will you come with me?" We have been standing there together for over 30 years now - teeth chattering, swearing, crying, singing, screaming. It's no use, the chaos group needs support. If a goal is scored on the right side, we kiss. In other moments, too, we cling desperately to each other. It welded us together more than we might think.
Do something for yourself. We have been going to a dance circle for almost as long - for hopeless cases. Moving to music together, fighting a little with each other, sitting together afterwards with people who have become friends in part. Then meeting friends and the weekends are full. Almost too full.
Maybe there's a little suggestion for you.
