I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years (we're both still students), but she broke up 2 days ago because she is not sure what she wants and that she has to find herself first.
It didn't end in a fight, but I just feel weird and get a queasy feeling when I get a snap from her, etc.
For the time being, I have cleared old memories into the basement, otherwise I simply could not have been in my room. I have also largely reduced our contact, every attempt to contact comes from their side.
Today she wrote to me that she was sorry and that she wasn't sure if it was right to break up. She needs some time now.
Another reason for the split was that she just needed a change in a relationship, our meetings were just chilling in bed and watching Netflix. Our chats were always based on the same principle.
I wanted to ask if you have any tips for me. Do you think there's hope that we will get back together? Her decision was very short-term, she only considered for 2 days.
If so, what could we do to get the relationship going again? So activities etc. So that this everyday life does not prevail.
I thank you in advance for your answers.
Yep, your relationship sounds really boring.
She's been thinking about it for a while and noticed that it doesn't fit
But instead of talking to you about what you might want to change, she'd rather just throw it away for 2 years… This is not exactly a mature behavior
To a relationship two u belong to an end too. You were both couch potatoes.
There's so much to do as a couple, there are so many interests to develop… But your interest was to watch the boring Netflix.
That would not be a relationship for me.
Talk to her about it, you have to find a solution together, if there's one at all
U that you ask here shows how fancy you are
I have to disappoint you…
… A relationship in the sense of "real partnership" with respect and trust never existed with you…
… In that case there's nothing to save.
The two of you were just simple sympathy and sexual favors, nothing more.
… And sentences like: "I have to find myself first" are nothing more than a desperate attempt not to hurt each other.
… People separate for two reasons:
For one, if someone had done something wrong… But most often, if someone had NOT done something.
… Regardless, check off now, set up contacts consistently and start something new… But… With a clear idea in mind what you want for you and much more important… What you are willing to give for an honest partnership.
You are both young. Maybe the hard truth is that she just wants to make new friends in your life and needs a sense of freedom. At least that's what it sounds like to me. So don't stiffen up to the whole thing. "What really wants to stay comes again if you let it go."
If you do get into a relationship with her again or maybe you have a new relationship at some point (which is quite possible, even if you may not be able to think about it now) think about the following: Bring as much variety into a relationship as possible. Do a lot! Go to the cinema, go for a walk, picnic, go to a leisure park, eat, visit other cities, go mini-golfing, go-karting, jump on a trampoline or whatever. The main thing is that you experience something beautiful together.
Then the relationship will not be so monotonous. Even if you can't win them back, you can learn something from this relationship.
I think if she regrets it and maybe would like to be with you again, you still have a chance, but since I don't know both of you, of course I have no idea. Don't run after her but don't ignore her too much either. And if it works, a little variety (maybe dates, little trips… Etc.) is definitely good.
Do you think there's hope that we will get back together?
Give her the time she needs to put her thoughts and feelings in order, it is important not to press. If you really care about the relationship, it will make itself felt.
