I'm 19 years old and my girlfriend is 18 years old.
We have been a couple for 3 years but rather on off moderate. After the saying it does not work with and also not without.
I'm a pretty ambitious person, which I can't really say about her and I still have many plans in my life, she somehow always makes everything bad for me and my achievements suffer a lot. I recently had my final exam and 2 weeks before there was another argument where she had gotten in so much that she left me. I suffered a lot from the separation and could no longer concentrate on learning for the exam and I did not get the results I wanted there. I missed you so much afterwards that I kept writing to you even though I wanted to keep contact, at some point I was able to persuade you for dinner and that evening everything was just as before and everything was almost forgotten and we were together again. I really do a lot for her but she constantly gives me the feeling that it is not enough. Unfortunately, nothing really comes from her, I work every day from 7 am to 4 pm and go to sports 6 times a week. She would like to spend time with me 24/7 but doesn't understand that I need time for myself too. She just bums at home all day and doesn't know what to do with herself. We usually see each other on weekends because I want to focus on work and sport during the week and I don't need anyone around me who is only in bed all evening, wants to be cooked and wants to watch Netflix. Unfortunately she does not understand that now that I'm still young I want to give everything for my future so that I have a perfect life later and enough money for family and holidays. At the end of next month, I would like to do my A levels in a larger city / then a dual degree. Then I will also move to this city. I'm going to get a student grant, my child allowance and I've already got a job as a waiter based on 450 euro. Then there's the daily training, which I definitely don't want to do without. Only I may have to wait more often on Saturdays and there's simply no time for you. Of course, you can also come over at the weekend, it is three quarters of an hour by train and I would of course pay for the ticket. She will also study in the same city next year.
Actually we wanted to move in together but then she said that she doesn't want to go anymore but she doesn't want me to move away alone. Yesterday she left me because I told her I was inquiring about an apartment and a part-time job and it left me totally cold as if I didn't care. I don't know if I still love her. It has totally changed.
What would you do if you were me?
My honest opinion: it sounds hard, but it definitely doesn't do you any good. You have great ambitions, take care of yourself while she just steps on the spot and wants to make sure that you feel the same.
You are young and the pain of separation will also go away. However, you really have to stay away from her, even if it stays hard.
If a relationship takes a break, it is also over.
or the relationship was simply not a correct relationship.
there's no pause in true love and there's no real hate. Even if you argue, you love it as much as you usually do.
ergo, your "relationship" is long gone
That happened to me recently with my current ex. It obviously doesn't do you any good, it damages you and your goals. Talk to her, just like you did here in peace, if you have already done so and she still thinks that she should behave like this then you better leave it. Sometimes it's better to let go. It is clear that you still love her, I mean you had a long relationship and certainly nice moments, but remember: you have to be happy. And under no circumstances should it stand in the way of your goals.
Talking makes no sense with such serious differences!
It is a waste of time.
Yesterday she left me because I told her I was inquiring about an apartment and a part-time job and it left me totally cold as if I didn't care.
It is really very often that your "girlfriend" breaks up with you. I think you can probably pull yourself together somehow, but your ideas regarding performance / future do not converge.
That's a problem.
Whether you have to do sports 6 times a week or sometimes invest a little more time in your girlfriend is up to you, but in any case you don't want to do without it. But the fact that she probably doesn't do anything at all without you is the other thing and sounds very exhausting to me as if she were your appendage and if you don't feel as fast as she wants, she puts pressure on you to "break up".
I want to be honest, I don't think there's a future with you. I would sit down with her seriously and talk about it. Should there be another conclusion, it will not be an "I return" but the end. But I think anyway that the train has probably continued.
Maybe you will get back together when some time has passed (and I'm really talking about time!) And your ideas are the same. Until then, it may be time to just think of yourself and go your own way.
Thank you for your answer, I know 6x a week sport is a lot, but I just need it to relieve the stress of everyday life. I will sit down again with her on the weekend and talk myself out of it completely and if you break up next time, I'll be and will be away.
Then I wish you all the best!
For me it looks like she will always end it as soon as something does not suit her, because she knows you will come back anyway. It "trains" you like this. You have to be the way she wants it to be.
A relationship doesn't make sense. There's no reasonable communication and you are the one who tries to work on it but not. Leave it this time. If so, she should fight for it this time and see that it doesn't work that way. If she does not see it, then it is finally over.
That is your opinion.
You don't understand women like that. It broke up with you and you always come crawling like a mother's son. Do you mean she wants a mother's son, or do you believe when you say next time is finally over?
What do you actually do for the relationship, apart from waiting, making demands, having expectations? What would be normal about the relationship, not toxic?
Yes and, does this not suit you, or was I too strict with such women?
They don't have to suit me & 'I don't care if you do it with other women
Bossiness of you? I called "possibilities", are these opinions for you that I use? Imputations are essential for you.
