I'm w / 17 and I have a friend (17) for almost 2 years of whom I'm totally dependent. We spend every day together and I could spend a few days without him, but as soon as he wants to be alone or do something with others, no matter who, I can't stand it. I have to know all the time what exactly he is doing and suffering. I've been jealous all my life and have been scared to lose friends, but now it's much worse. When my friend and I got to know each other, I was totally happy, and my boyfriend too, but I was often jealous of my girlfriends or of my ex, with whom I was only a week together. He was often so bad that we quarreled and after a few months the tide turned and I started to get jealous of everything and everybody. I got terribly scared and always compared myself to everything and everyone, and always get half a fit when my friend and I are watching Netflix together and he sees hot women. My boyfriend was not jealous anymore after we were together for about 3/4 years, but I was much worse and worse and worse. We argue about it so often, and when I'm in a panic and crying very loud and so on, sometimes he gets aggressive and easily beat me. In addition, I can't take it that the ex of my friend goes to his school and must constantly remember that he was in love with someone else, even if not long and he always tells me that this is serious with me and not then. Today I know that I was diagnosed with anxiety disorders and depression because I went to a psychologist for panic. Nevertheless, I did not dare to tell anything and I just do not know how to make me happy again. I can't somehow overcome myself to be alone a bit, because I'm so afraid that he has fun with others and then neglected me.
Of course he also has fun with others and you can't forbid him to do that.
You are two separate persons and no Siamese twins.
Wonder that you are still together.
Find a therapist u work on you
If you do not finally care about your problems then your friend will definitely depend on you! Sorry, that's tough, but the truth!
Honestly, what normal man does that in the long term and can endure in the long run? None!
And it's not fair and it's not right that you put so much strain on your relationship with YOUR problems! Sure, if a partner has problems, then you stick together. But then the partner has to do something about his problems and can't expect from his partner that he always and everywhere is now looking after you and your problems!
Just because you have a problem, he can't blindfold and 24 hours to bed with you! YOU have to finally come out of the cottage cheese!
And that includes giving the psychologist pure wine and finally saying what's up! You can't go to the doctor and just say that you are in pain, but you do not reveal what hurts exactly! How should the doctor then help? And if you do not finally tell the psychologist everything, then he does not know what your problem is and can't help you either. As simple as that!
So stop asking your friend for consideration for your problems. You can only expect that from your partner to a certain extent. You also have to do something about it and with that you should finally start!
