I have now met for the third time with a girl who the second time to the question: "How is it going with you so relationally…" answered: "Not like that and I don't have time for something like that because I'm finishing my training and then want to go to South-East Asia for a year ". Then I thought everything was okay, right down below.
We'd obviously be a really good match. We watched exactly the same things on Netflix, listened to the same music, had the same activities (well, Netflix and sleep, and an activity that I won't go into here now). She is 2 years younger and I can talk to her without end. Within 8 hours with a maximum of 2 minutes without talking in between.
So give me tips
How do you initiate something like that?
had 4 years of relationship. Missed the game completely.
M / 21
She has completely different goals than you. Don't let time take away from you and let go. You'll find the right one, but it's probably not you. Focus on what you really want.
Try to convince her of you so that she no longer thinks that she doesn't want a relationship. Try to give her a lot of freedom so that she is not restricted and has a lot of time for her studies. And with the topic that she wants to go away for a year, you have to worry about whether love is strong enough and whether you can cope with the distance. It's best to tell her how you feel so that you can handle the situation appropriately.
I would say she is already interested, but (as is usual with a lot of women) can't say directly: yes, I want…
Such imprecise statements are then put forward first - also to test your reaction.
Future plans back and forth - are constantly being corrected, always depends on the circumstances and many other factors.
So stay tuned and make the most of your time. Nothing is as changeable as a relationship at the beginning - precisely because the feelings pull you back and forth.
So don't give up - unless, because she says an unequivocal NO!
Bro but Bill kaulitz and Heidi klum or what?
Better than any psychologist. What's wrong with the people on Gute Question Net. Abnormally good answers.
Unfortunately, there can be no question of a "good match" in my opinion. Because the fact that you have completely different goals in life speaks against a relationship.
Besides, it's a fairy tale that it would fit between two just because they like the same or even the opposite.
It is best not to worry about whether a relationship or not, but always pursue your own interests and goals (of course not ruthlessly) but so that you present a personality for a possible partner.
If you have the time to spend with her then go ahead and do it, but never hope for something in the first place.
Strong you thank you
So in principle it is not too fast to go in the direction of a relationship after seeing each other 3 times? Look, she is not completely averse to the idea otherwise she would immediately draw a line on the question and limit contact to a minimum. If I were you, I would give her a little more time and you could also basically talk about the future, apart from relationships and so on. Just because you have intercourse, watch the same Netflix series, and listen to the same music doesn't mean you are made for each other. Look a little more at what they have in common, like the future. It's a good sign that you can have a good time, but a relationship is about so much more than just having things in common. It's about trust and loyalty - you have to be sure that you are the right one and not just someone who is lonely and needs someone by your side quickly. You make a poor impression and that makes you incredibly unattractive. Believe me, running like a dog behind you is more a sign of inconsistency and blind devotion. Show her that you care about her and that you feel well prepared for the future with her. Give her gray space to reflect too. I wish you all the best and a good future with her too!
Yes, you also have to survey their character. She also says she has the stress on the weekend when she has to get 8 bowls, a rolling pin and a few formans from the basement and they have to be put in the dishwasher.
The girl has never had a relationship. And if she says it's stressful then it's about 5% stress.
It is not just the character of a person, there are so many factors that one is not even aware of at first glance / thought. (e.g. Heard or read of: "the chemistry must be right"?)
The girl has never had a relationship. And if she says it's stressful then it's about 5% stress.
Assumptions don't help either!
The fact is that she has no interest in a relationship and that won't change anytime soon.
