If you have a relationship and work fully, but your boyfriend / girlfriend doesn't feel like working. Love chilling all day and Netflix. Would that be ok for you or not?
Wouldn't it be okay for her to live at the friend's expense? Especially: does she want to do this all her life?
My boyfriend and I are currently doing it this way: he is busy working, I'm in an apprenticeship in which nothing is earned. Now he pays everything (food, a trip). As of September I finished my apprenticeship and he started one. We change roles. If that's agreed, I think that's okay. But it would be unfair to make it easy from the start. Personally, I sometimes have a guilty conscience now if he always has to pay everything, and that's what we agreed upon…
It's just not OK. It would go too far. If he takes a day off in the working week, that's still possible, but not in the long run!
That would not work for me. I once co-financed a partner out of naivety; and I will not do it again Although he didn't even just want to chill, but at least wanted to realize his (rather unrealistic) dream. But it didn't work in the long run.
Somewhere in my experience that has to be balanced in a relationship; So both have to invest and give about the same amount.
In general, it depends.
If the partner has a stressful life situation or is simply unhappy and has a "down" it would be okay, but as you describe it is more about laziness. You have to show certain limits and tell him / her that it is not good, so you will not get any further in life and does not look good in your CV!
You can also say that you offer him / her support in the search for a job, some only need a helping hand.
It wouldn't be ok for me.
If my partner loses his job or can't work due to health reasons, it would not be a problem to support him temporarily. On the other hand, doing nothing permanently just to have a comfortable life would be a no-go for me.
It wouldn't be bad if he didn't earn a lot, my ex also earned (significantly) less than me, but he did contribute financially to our lives. It was ok for me because he was happy with his job.
I wouldn't tolerate a parasite that doesn't contribute anything at all.
