It's about how to see that:
Is it ok / can you accept it if your best friend has an appointment with you but she cancels her in the morning because she does not feel like it? So she wrote that today she is not up for anything and is motivated and therefore does not come.
And another time it was like this: we're always together on Mondays during our lunch break. And I always run earlier because of her, so we can spend time. Because normally I'm at home and just enjoy the rest. Last time because she wanted to study for the lesson (it was her second ride, what do you have to learn?) She put me back. These two are simply not good and plausible reasons for me to sit down. In general, she slowly develops into a student who panics at work and says she can't… And in hindsight, it's always a 1 or 2. I do not really like that… Besides, she watches Netflix so often the mobile phone or is generally on the phone. But never write me… I mean, if I needed help and needed someone to talk to, they would not read the message until a week later. I also mentioned my 2 best friends in a story last time. And written that I'm glad to have her. One thanked me so much and thought it was sweet. And she did not say or do anything…
We would you see that?
What I think?
She is not upset. Let go and do your thing. No more and no less.
I think she is a fake friend…
Is it ok / can you accept it if your best friend has an appointment with you but she cancels her in the morning because she does not feel like it? So she wrote that today she is not up for anything and is motivated and therefore does not come.
No, I can't accept that you could also chill somewhere in the meadow because she does not have to do a great deal
Have you ever mentioned it? Because so much we want to help you now, we can't look in her head. It could be so much, for example, that she is not feeling well at the moment and that she needs distance from everything. That would then justify the demotivation and rarely writing back. It could be that she is changing, and in her opinion, maybe you do not bring so much more in friendship, which sounds hard, but just belongs to life. Then she would not just go up to you and tell you that directly, so you should go to her as well. I do not know if you are male or female now, but it could also be that she thinks you have developed feelings and distanced her immediately.
There are so many possibilities, I would look for a dialogue with her in your place, if it puts a great strain on you. If not, then wait and see if it improves, but talking is actually always good.
