Have I lost depth / have become more superficial?

Lately I've always had the feeling that I've lost "in depth". For orientation I'm 18 years old. Somehow I hardly think about any things, be it positive or negative and I find it more difficult to express my feelings and conversations with friends are mostly only about superficial topics such as everyday life, school / job or sometimes political topics, etc.

I personally think that "social media" is also related to it, I used to read a lot or just spend time with myself, but now I always distract myself with music, Netflix & co, somehow just live into the day and just look forward to it For the weekend or any other occasion and also in relation to other people I have become somehow superficial, I used to wear clothes, etc. It doesn't matter, now it's relatively important to me, not only with me but also with my friends.

Have you perhaps made experiences with it yourself or do you know how I can find myself better again? Do you think taking a break from social media might be helpful?

Conversations with friends are mostly only about superficial topics like everyday life, school / job or sometimes political topics, etc.

probably new people, that is not always due to yourself, the conversation now includes min. 2

Be glad that you can fit them into this society… I, on the other hand, am always just thinking & don't even really have friends with whom I can talk… I worry about everything and can hardly stand having to live in this world… Just enjoy that you are not like that and that you can just swim in the mainstream

I prefer to talk to myself xD

the others are net competent enough for me xD

(Fun if you don't recognize it)

I think it's great that you can reflect and recognize that so well.

I noticed something like that for me after I got my first cell phone. I think you have to be really careful with social media that you don't get too "devoured" like you do with Netflix and so on.

In my case, I then reduced it, and if I e.g. When I study for school, I often even give my cell phone to my father and tell him not to give it back to me for 2 hours or so (if I don't need the cell phone to study that day, that can happen).

Go to town without a cell phone. Go to Thalia or another bookstore there, stroll through the rows and see what interests you. Buy a really nice book that sounds good. You can lol in an armchair there and read your way. At home, you leave your cell phone where it is, you don't have to check any messages, so important things won't have happened. Make yourself a tea or cocoa or whatever you like, snuggle up with a blanket on the couch and start reading.

Maybe this is your first step back in the direction that you liked better and that you had lost a bit.

A general break from social media would certainly not be a bad thing. I think I would continue to follow the news, because it often ensures that you think a little deeper, now only 6 people have drowned in the Mediterranean again and that gives me food to think about us as people. Just as an example now.

One last important thing that I can think of is the friends you have. It is said that you are always a mixture of the five people who are closest to you. If you have friends who want to have a deeper conversation, you automatically tend to do so at some point. Not that you should swap friends now. But see if you can find more friends (I know it's difficult with Corona) who have such interests. I think you can find them especially in places where people are either committed to helping others (e.g. Volunteering) or voluntarily doing something "academic" outside of school, e.g. Participants in youth research, youth debates and so on. Often these are not people who do nothing but Netflix at home.

I'm sorry that you feel like this. That doesn't sound good.

Nevertheless, if you have the "opposite" problem, you may want to look for a solution. You have different problems, but that doesn't mean either of them can be happy about their problem.

I also see her problem, sometimes I have the same problem, e.g. I'm simply not able to establish deeper relationships with people… I think that is something that could happen to her or already is