Half a year ago, a "friend" (don't really know us) came to me for the first time and Netflix and Chill ran harmlessly (kissing and fiddling). Didn't meet each other alone, but now we're writing or flirting a lot again and want to do something again.
We had already clarified that we can both imagine a friendship plus (both have no experience but are of the same opinion, so "rules" have already been discussed).
My problem is that he doesn't want to let me to him (my argument was: last time with me this time with you).
Do you know why he is so stubborn and how I could "convince" him to meet with one and sometimes with the other (as it would be normal.)?
I would not let anyone to me too. Because my room simply has nothing to offer xD
I know what his room looks like anyway, but he can't think we're just with me every time, or… 😂🤔
He may still live with his parents and is embarrassed.
Or he has a girlfriend at home😂
Why not? If he liked it at your home, it's good. I see no disadvantages there ^^
Yes, he still lives at home, just like me
And no, he has no girlfriend😅
He draws the advantage from it, but I have the disadvantage… I also have parents😅
He probably too.
That's clear to me😂 But I have to explain the uncomfortable thing to my parents just as he does… Bit of equality ^^
And no, he has no girlfriend…
My sister thought that for 10 months, too, until it was blown up by a stupid timing "error".
If he doesn't want to, he'll do it outside.
But it would be fair to take turns with him and you.
You have to explain to your parents that you have a friendship + with him and that he comes to your home because of it? Just say I have a friend who wants to stay with me and visit me.
So if you've been to him before, maybe something doesn't seem to suit him or he's a little embarrassed.
Did he justify why he didn't want it with him or just said no?
I believe you, but I'm really sure because I know his surroundings and his friends and everything and at Snapchat I notice what he does where every minute…
Outside😂😂
Bed is a requirement ^^
Well, if you're so sure about that…
It's about the principle of not having to fool my parents every weekend, they will notice if he only comes to me and never the other way around.
Vlt is then simply embarrassed in front of his parents.
Or his parents are embarrassing to him (which is often the case with adolescents)
So if you're under 18 I wouldn't worry about it. Probably will have a reason that has nothing to do with you or you.
With a 30 year old who lives with the mother, it is of course something else.
No, I've never been to him and his reason was that he doesn't know what to say to his parents. But that's no different for me. : /
Yes we're under 18😅
I don't think it's bad either, I understand that it is the same with my parents. Only I think both should plug in and make the compromise here and there, it is unfair otherwise.
What's wrong with that? I had sex with my boyfriend back then when friendship plus was more often in the forest…
Then tell him and make it clear to him that this will only work with you when you are with you and sometimes with him. If you have no feelings for each other, but only sex, that shouldn't be a problem. Or you just do something when one of you has a storm-free situation, that's what I did at the time. However, since I only live with my mother and he and his parents plus brother, I often had a storm-free run, so we were with me more often. But he should just say you're a friend and you're watching a movie or something…
