I'm 17 and I'm going to have my first date soon. We don't know each other personally, only on Instagram (we have mutual friends). He invited me over and spoke of "Netflix and Chill". But I'm sure that I don't want to "chill".
What should I do now? Should i go What can I say?
By not chilling, do you mean something more intimate?
No. Always meeting someone stranger in public the first time.
Tell friends or family about it and arrange a test call with a friend if necessary.
Yes
Meet in public. Anything can happen to the guy at home and as a girl you should be careful, especially Netflix and Chill for the first date I also find stupid and uncreative, because you don't talk much. Go out, go for a walk, eat something, go shopping, have a picnic in the park, …
What to do
Have you never met him in person and he invites you to his home?
Don't be angry with me, but if you were my daughter I wouldn't let you see him at all, especially on your own.
Why doesn't he come to you, in front of your parents' eyes, if he would like to get to know you?
I'm still an old school woman and I think a man interested in a woman should take the first step.
So this means: he should come to your home, introduce himself to your parents and then, if there are already restaurants open in your place, you can go out to eat pizza so that you can get to know each other in your place.
And on the first date as a minor girl, I would agree with you anyway, possibly BFF.
Take it easy.
Because the fact that you go to his house "doesn't taste good at all".
With someone you don't know personally, you should always meet in public first. Then you can go to his home with him, if you have made a first impression of him and you understand each other.
And of course you should talk beforehand about the fact that you don't want sex yet and want to take it slowly. Because "Netflix and Chill" is also used as a synonym for sex.
It is possible that he actually wants more directly and is not looking for a steady relationship at all, but for an ONS, an F + or something in that direction.
Of course, it can also be that he doesn't feel like going for a walk with you and he just remembered Netflix. Although that's not necessarily a good decision for a first date, especially if you don't really know each other yet. Don't you want to have a chat first?
The question is what do you want? If you don't want to go to his house (personally, I wouldn't do that on a first date) suggest another meeting point. You can also write to him directly or say that you find his invitation a little ambiguous if you are hoping for a serious relationship.
