I've been writing with a 17 year old boy (I'm 16) for a while, he wrote to me on Snapchat 4 months ago and we have sent pictures to each other very often, just like you do on Snapchat, but he just happens to live one city further.
Now he asked me last night if we wanted to meet. That is also nice & good and I would say yes immediately, but he asked if we want to watch Netflix at home and "chill". How should I? Interpret that? I think he just wants to sleep with me because it came pretty straight forward.
I'm quite overwhelmed with this situation and I'm also a virgin and I would not feel ready for it. What can I answer him?
Ask him if it absolutely has to be at home and if you can't just do something else somewhere, like Drink a coke (stupid example). Based on this, he should actually understand that you don't want anything in this direction. But it also depends on you whether you want to be friends with such a person if you feel uncomfortable with his definition of depend
Just tell him clearly that you don't want to meet with him or him at home. Meet in public (go for a walk, eat, etc.) and get to know each other first.
I would say from the feeling that he only wants one thing. The fact that he wants to do the whole thing with you actually only shows that he doesn't want to reveal anything about his private life.
But in order to be able to assess this better, one would have to know what you are writing about. If those were just irrelevant things and he didn't show any real interest in your life and everything, then he probably really only wants one thing.
The first meeting always takes place in public. Point. No matter how old you are and how you know each other.
A considerate type would not invite the woman / girl directly into the apartment. Maybe he's super nice and everything is fine, but be careful.
Your feeling tells you that you are not ready. You shouldn't even meet him at all. What do you want to hang out with him if you have to worry all the time?
When you're ready, your body gives you signals.
