I have a question and hope you can help me. I (f / 14) feel oppressed and not understood by my parents. It starts with the fact that they think that I can only be on the cell phone for 1 hour a day (I'm mostly on the cell phone for longer, but they always go crazy), when they go to the toilet they never close the door (I have it too already kindly pointed out but they don't care) that disgusts me so much that I have already considered leaving home. They also just tell other people secrets or embarrassing things about me. They don't allow me to use Netflix, which is why I sometimes feel very excluded because I can't have a say. They don't allow Spotify either.
Do you have an idea what I can / should do?
Become 18 and then become self-employed
and wait another 20 years until you grow up, have your own job, family, own children and THEN I'm very excited to see your own questions about raising children
What your parents do is called education.
It is ok and very good that they pay attention to your cell phone use and that you don't have to do that on Netflix
They could make you a kids acc, but you definitely don't want that
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I can understand you well… A good friend of mine has the same problem.
That's why she never brings her friends home with her…
Unfortunately, you can't do very much.
Try talking to them again and how much you hate what they're pulling off!
But please don't run away from your problems. It only makes things worse! (I already have the option behind me…)
Get someone to talk to! 😇
when you bring someone into your situation, you no longer feel so "weak" against your parents… 😉
But I'm sure that your parents only want to protect you
There's nothing you can do about your parents' upbringing methods - or what you call your opinion. You can talk to them and try to show them how dissatisfied you are with certain situations, but I hardly think they will change them because of that.
You are not yet of legal age and your parents still have the right to "determine" yourself.
That you feel misunderstood is completely normal in old age. Your parents won't have an easy time with you at the moment. That's how puberty is.
Have you ever sat down quietly and talked about it? Without reproaches, without being loud?
Spotify and Netflix are costly. Can you offer something in return to justify these costs? Try not to insist on getting the hell out of your point of view, but sometimes compromise.
And very important: the sound makes the music.
One hour a day is no longer upbringing… And what about the rest?
You don't understand the connection?
Of course, education is a good thing
Top answer, that's what my mother said to me 40 years ago (something like that) and I now understand her very well!
