Which girl would you prefer?

I'm currently pretty insecure, so I don't know how to deal with my thoughts or myself. So there's a boy that I have been very fond of for a long time and I also thought that he would like me until a new girl came to us this school year and it seems to me that he is now (also) up she would stand. I then "studied" her a little on Instagram and she feels like one of those girls with the 90s style, with these aesthetic pictures of herself or flowers, etc. She also has many followers and is one of the popular girls in mine Great. She also goes out partying a lot and has a nose piercing and smokes too. Visually, it's pretty nice because it very often gets compliments and likes. I also see the boy often staring at her in class. It really hurts because it makes me feel very insecure.

I get compliments from family members and close friends, but it's kind of not the same for me. I'm more of a girl who never goes out partying, just crouches around at home and watches Netflix, or instead learns / prepares for the next lesson, reads, doesn't smoke or do anything. I'm afraid that it makes me look less exciting and the boy prefers to turn to the girl…

What should I do? What do you think?

Nobody can tell you what to do here. If you like him, you can consider contacting him or watching further - both are possible.

I couldn't do anything with either of them because that's not a character description of what you wrote, just an e-listing of activities that apply to most people.

Your concerns are not entirely unjustified to IMO.

According to your description, you seem to be the introverted, sensible and harmony-oriented type of person. That is great in itself! There's only one problem: at your age (since you are still a student, I guess you are at most around 20 years old), most of the boys are more into crazy girls who can "sell" themselves, like to party and to have a cheeky demeanor.

You must either be lucky enough to find someone who is more into your type, or be patient for a few years. For some boys / men, interests shift later, and the same goes for girls / women. When you are young you want to have fun, experience a lot, feel excitement. When you have reached boring work life at some point, many tend to look for harmony, empathy and profundity. Men suddenly become aware of shy women, women realize that good looks and material concerns are not all that matters to men.

But maybe you are lucky and get to know someone who is more attracted to "less exciting" girls like you. I was e.g. Already in school at the age of 16, I had fallen in love with a calm and friendly classmate that most other boys hardly noticed.

I much prefer the girl who matches your self-description. Only I got to know girls like that in a singing club and not because they "squat" at home. Your problem may not be your way of life, but your retreat.

I wish you the best of luck and, above all, patience. The real "prince" will appear in your life at some point; I assume.

First of all: I think it's good that you don't smoke, but that's your decision, so you can always change it. Just like reading, reading is great, and great for education! Should a lot more people actually do more… Well, I don't think you should compare yourself to her! You are very different, there are certain things that you can do much better than them!

Schrill is of course an eye-catcher, but only a glossy surface with no inner values. Woe when the paint is peeling.

But that doesn't help you much at the moment. Take a look at your class level (or above) to find out what nice (!) Boys there are, not black-headed monkeys, but really nice guys. Guys are often a bit shy, so it may be necessary to actively seek closeness when you spot someone.

You are OK!

Don't be intimidated by color, shine, glitter and disgusting smoke. This is just for watching, but for nothing else…

Have courage!

It is also the case with me that I like quiet, sensible girls who don't smoke, go partying, drink alcohol…