My mum is extremely affectionate, what should I do?

E.g. I train in my room (dancing) every day and mostly 2-3 hours.

After 30 minutes she calls out how much longer I need because she doesn't want to be alone.

But after 2 hours she comes into my room and looks like a dog and says "I'm completely alone in the living room, nobody wants to keep me company"

And even though I'm in the middle of training, I stop because I'm so sorry.

It really works like this every time. I no longer have any private life / privacy at all.

I have 3 other siblings, 2 of them always do their thing and they don't care, the other one (she is 3) is always with my mum, which is also purely logical.

My mum is a single parent, so she has no partner.

I really can't do anything alone.

It always makes you feel guilty.

I've already talked to her about it, but she just won't let it.

But the whole thing has only been like this for 3 years, since we moved from Saxony to Schleswig-Holstein.

Before that, she also had a lot of friends with whom she did something, but here she finds zero attachment.

She is only ever at home or out shopping.

I've already said to her that maybe she should look for a hobby, which she just likes to do.

But it doesn't.

Corona doesn't make the whole thing easier with looking for friends, of course, but before Corona she didn't do anything about it, but she blames everything on Corona.

Just like just now, I told her that I would like to watch Netflix today, then she said so extremely pitying "actually I wanted to watch a movie with you, but well, then I'll watch alone, everything is fine…"

She does it extra because she knows that then I have a guilty conscience. And I no longer have any idea what to do about it.

First of all, be glad that you still have one. Mine is no longer alive:-(

but I see: difficult situation. Can you make a deal with her (and your siblings)? So: I'm doing this and that for myself now, that's why we're going to watch a film tonight… As with a little child… You think that would be possible?

demand: why doesn't she understand that she's taking over you? Can't she do it or doesn't she WANT it?

I'm really sorry for you. But she will always be with you, in your heart, there she lives on

That's a very good idea, I'll try it out, thank you.

And I guess she just doesn't wanna understand

Your mom feels lonely, she just needs someone to pay her attention.

And she should accept that you want to have some time for yourself. That is normal.

You can spend time with your mum, but not so that you do it unintentionally or so that you neglect other things.

Talk to her and say that you like to spend time with her but that you still like to do something different sometimes. If you tell her in a calm, kind tone, you won't hurt her either

Arggh i read you are only thirteen. Thought you were a little older. So maybe I would talk to a supervisor there. Or - sounds stupid now - with the parish priest! Firstly so that you will be helped and 2. Your mommy. Perhaps there's a volunteer position in the community for you that can be brought into harmony with your little daughter.

Thank you for your kind words