My boyfriend and I are both 27 and have been together for 2 years.
What annoys me mega is that he makes no effort in the relationship. I do and do so that he is happy and nothing comes from him. I'm not materialistic but I wish he would worry. Small gestures would make me happy too, but nothing!
For Valentine's Day I got a cheap receipt with 15 Euro Netflix credit and my hand was pressed. Sorry but then you can leave it at once. And at Christmas there were flowers from the gas station and a 50 euro voucher. Wow. I always think about something. Icj bring him something from shopping with what he likes, cook for him all the time. Make little messages. I always gave him things in between when he needed mine or wanted this and that. And he only comes up with something unimaginative. But the main thing he told me once was that he always gave so much for his ex girlfriends.
Then there's the fact that we have never been on vacation in the entire 2 years, not even over the weekend, because he supposedly never has any money but in my eyes he just can't handle it. But with ex girlfriends he was always there over the weekend and there. And I think okay, somehow I don't seem to be worth anything.
Sometimes I think I'm good enough for him because I constantly cook for him, which has regular sex. So he's fine, so why bother if he gets everything anyway…
It's always difficult to judge something because you don't know what it's like. Some of them are of a character that they can't convey feelings so well. Of course, it can also be that he takes you for granted and does not really appreciate you. Or he felt used up by the ex-girlfriend and doesn't want to experience it again. But I can't fully understand that you are in a relationship and show no feelings at all outside of sex. In the end, you have to decide for yourself whether you can accept it or end the relationship. Change is difficult.
Well, I have more things that make me sick of him. A separation will probably be the best.
Then I wish you all the best, I'm sorry for you but in the end you have to do what is best for you. It makes no sense to maintain something that is no longer there.
Are you complaining that you get a Netflix voucher on a commercial day that's just about making a profit? Are you crazy? Be glad that he gives you anything at all. Just like Christmas. 50 euro voucher is something. Are you not only making sex for him? So if you have so little fun with sex that you see it as a gesture for him, please separate. There are men who can show less affection. Talk to him personally again. If not, stop it. Then find someone who ticks just like you
Yes and if he doesn't get sex, he is offended and goes to the living room. 👏
Small gestures would make me happy too, but nothing!
For Valentine's Day I got a cheap receipt with 15 Euro Netflix credit and my hand was pressed.
Sorry but then you can leave it at once. And at Christmas there were flowers from the gas station and a 50 euro voucher
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Well there's something.
Not very original, not very imaginative, but it's not how you criticize it.
Maybe you're such a woman who won't be happy with anything.
I'm a woman to be worried about and not always to take the easiest way.
Should he go to the basement?
I'm a woman
That certainly explains everything… And he's a man.
Because of the vacation you plan something. Just because he was gone with the ex doesn't mean he thought it over and planned it.
Cooking for him is also exaggerated, you cook for yourself and nobody can force you to do it.
You probably like sex because you don't understand your problem.
Just because you don't like his gifts other couples don't give each other Christmas or Valentine's Day.
You appreciate and love your partner with all its facets. You are certainly not perfect either.
Do not give yourself so much effort anymore, then you will not have to reproach him for so much anymore and it will soon become clear where the journey is going.
