I'm 15 and pretty much all my free time consists of lying in bed, watching or playing Netflix or YouTube. I somehow have no social contacts with whom I want to spend time.
It starts with the fact that I live in a small village without any mountains, shops or clubs. The next town with about 45,000 inhabitants is 15 minutes away by car, but the problem is that my classmates are just idiots who just drink and paint swastikas everywhere, and the couple "normal" only gamble online all the time -games. I don't use social media either, so I don't get to know people that way either.
I really don't feel like going anywhere alone, but I hate spending all my free time doing nothing.
This has been going on for a long time now and this gigantic boredom drives me into despair…
Anyone have an idea?
Unfortunately, you have shaped your life so far and are therefore to blame for your situation.
I can understand that you don't like your "drinking and swastika painting" classmates. That speaks for you. They would indeed be the wrong friends for you.
The nearest town is only 15 minutes away. Find yourself a volunteer, get a hobby, take courses, join a club. There are sooo many options if you only want to. Of course you have to be active yourself, then you will get to know a lot of people.
Wouldn't it be good to make such resolutions for 2020?
First of all… Calm down.
Just that you are talking about social neglect in the community may already be too much of a good thing.
Sure, you feel lonely and have social needs that want to be met.
But try to find ways to fulfill them. I know is such a "stupid, old" saying… But "Who does not want something, finds reasons. Who wants something, ways."
So now I have a few solutions:
Take a bus and train to a larger town nearby and do something there (in my old home town there was nothing interesting for me)
does something with the "normal" from school. You said that you gamble… Maybe you'll find games together.
The last option I offer is in the event that the first 2 points are not options for you… Just settle for the moment with the situation… Time passes, interests come and go and maybe you will get your driver's license in a few years or get in contact with suitable people through the vocational school
No, I'm not so left, it only bothers me when they all paint swastikas everywhere and celebrate…
Nice contribution and optimistic. A short objection, by the way. He said 15 minutes by car… So that could be 20 km (just don't come with a calculator… I know how fast you have to drive xD)
Incidentally, I have nothing to add to the matter of volunteering, except that I can recommend it. It can be quite fulfilling, especially in elderly care or care for people with disabilities.
I think it would be a really good idea to have a couple of annual resolutions. My current condition is also due to the fact that my parents never signed me on to anything. It shouldn't be a problem to register anywhere.
With pleasure! You will see that you will flourish.
