Give me advice?

My life is passing me by. I often stay awake at night and sleep during the day. When I'm awake, I'm just lying in my bed, eating sweets and watching Netflix. (I'm extremely addicted to cell phones) I can't get myself to do anything else. I would like to change my life, eat healthy, do sports, be productive, do something that I really enjoy. But I feel like I fell into a hole that I can't get out of. For some time now I have felt that I don't want to live anymore, but I don't want to die either. (So I'm not a danger to myself.) I just feel so empty and I often wonder if I'm doomed to be unhappy forever. I've made plans to change countless times, but I've never made it. I hate my life and I'm afraid that it will stay that way forever. I don't know what to do and I can't talk to anyone because nobody understands me, everyone thinks I'm lazy. Does anyone have advice for me? I just can't take it anymore.

I have it myself, but not as much. You decide yourself whether you want to live with your parents all your life and be empty, or study and want to be successful. I often ask myself what I want from my life, what do I want do? If you want to change, you can do it too, and I've started to change that too. I don't watch Insta all night anymore, I eat healthier and do sports in the morning, I discover new things that I enjoy. We can also write longer. And how old are you?

I, 13

I'm 16. Really great that you can do it so well, I would love to do it all, but then I always think that it won't work anyway and I'm a hopeless case…

It's good that you have the insight that something has to change. You have a lot of problems and you want to work on yourself. Take a piece of paper and write everything down. What are your goals? Getting ready for school… What are your hobbies, is there a sport that you would enjoy? When you see everything on a piece of paper, it's usually not all that bad. Make a plan for how you want to spend your day. Also strictly adhere to it. You write: everyone thinks I'm lazy. I simply think that you are 'lazy'. You have to get rid of this sluggishness and then work on your goals and other things. That will certainly not happen overnight, but only step by step. Either you can do it yourself or you really need help. Reward yourself when you've 'done' some of your plan.

Tidy up your hormone balance!

Daily structure, little Netflix, no more sweets. Little social media and chat. More sport. Do you smoke? If so, stop!

And push the serotonin level, e.g. By going to bed earlier and growing up earlier. Eat healthier. And that doesn't help, think about antidepressants. A small dose helps

Perhaps you can start with small things that are not so difficult for you, simply so that you can confirm yourself and also have a sense of achievement that you have achieved something. If you want to change everything at once, eat healthier, be more productive and do sports, it will probably overwhelm you and demotivate you again. You could e.g. Before you watch Netflix, do a little sports program. A couple of squats, or pushups on the wall. Maybe do that as a ritual. If that works out, leave out half of the candy and eat a banana, apple or other fruit instead. Motivate yourself with small steps and small success stories. Maybe write a note with a saying like "I can do it" and hang it on the wall so that you can see it again and again. If it doesn't work one day, don't throw everything back in the same place, just continue the next day. All the best.

You mustn't want to move the whole mountain: I have to change.

You only have to carry a few stones away every day. Then at some point you made the mountain.

The best thing is a little booklet and write it in the evening,

1 - 3 things you want to do the next day.
write down how you did it that motivates and again 1-3 things for the next day.

And do everything carefully, attentively, still want to learn and improve. Seek joy in and in it.

This is how you climb the life ladder. Learn, grow, can, be yourself. Enjoy creative mindfulness.

Instead of vegetating drowsily. That is no good for joy. 😉😊