My friend has been so absent lately and doesn't want to phone anymore and just wants to gamble and watch Netflix and say after 20 minutes that he needs time for himself and apart from 'good morning' he hardly writes anything on his own and when I do need him and say that I'm sad, he knocks any slogans like misery not so often and I sometimes have the feeling that I don't mean anything to him anymore 🥺 and he doesn't care if I'm sad and we hardly talk anymore he mostly only talks About his dirty games with me, please someone can give me tips on how they might want to spend more time with me or what I can do in general to make them more interesting
You should talk to him. I would not try to change in your place.
Either he understands after a conversation or you have your clarity.
What are your common interests?
How far do you live from each other?
What attracted you to the other person that you entered into a relationship?
How long have you been together?
Was his behavior so different before Corona?
When did it change? (Was there a trigger?)
Since school is closed I only play video games and watch Netflix. I think that's normal
So we actually have common interests and I can't do that right now so he gambles alone and only talk about this game. We live 180km apart. I already fell in love with him when I heard his voice and he said it was the same with him. We have been together for 10 months. Before Corona he was like that. It has been like this for 4-5 months for about 5 months
Yes, but if he chose to have a girlfriend he can't just ignore her, or am I wrong?
Leave him 1-2 weeks
If nothing changes, you know that he has lost interest in you
If I should be honest, only gamble as a commonality I find very little. You notice yourself that a large part of the topic breaks away. This is not a good basis for a long-distance relationship.
Have you ever met in person?
Sure, that's not an option at the moment, but what about later?
At the moment, apart from an open discussion, I see no way of influencing further. I would find it important to find something that makes you a couple. Just as a tip: This can also be common dislikes.
First of all, become clear to yourself what you expect from him and your relationship. Then tell him you want to talk about yourself. Give him some time to prepare for it too.
If this is too difficult for you, write a letter or an email.
Relationships must be kept alive by both sides.
Thank you and we have met very often in real and if we can see us again in 2 weeks and I told him 20 minutes ago I would like to talk to him so well I just wanted to hang up a little Netflix we can watch it later and I know if I don't call him he would call me just before he goes to sleep
I'm sorry… It gives me the impression that he's no longer really interested in a relationship. Maybe he just doesn't notice his behavior, but…
It is best to speak to him directly if he still wants a relationship. Straightforward and honest, without much talk.
Then he has to face it.
I'm so sorry.
Ok I call him now and ask him.
Then you should see him. Let's say that you don't think much of the relationship. Possibly. Then he thinks it over again, otherwise you know that you are not important enough to him.
