What is that between us -?

Me (w, 22) has been meeting someone for almost two weeks now (m, 24) and it's all going well, it feels really nice, but I'm just not getting smart out of it. Maybe you?

We see each other really regularly - everything 2-3 days and then look mostly netflix, go out and eat something and he has already slept with me - no, it has not happened much more than usual, because I'm a virgin and he knows that - also knows that I need time and so on.

We always laugh together a lot, they both have almost the same stupid humor and can somehow talk about anything without it being embarrassing. I rarely have that when I meet someone. I also have moments where I look at him and think "could he be the right one? Could that be a relationship?". But then I quickly think of the thought, because I do not want to rush and give us time, use the moment and not think too much.

that's one more thing - I'm someone who thinks about everything ten times. Just way too much thinks and he has noticed very quickly. He generally has a good knowledge of human nature - quickly recognized the tense wg situation here. I realized that I like it a lot, etc.

Another thing is that I have trouble kissing him from me. I simply lack self-confidence. I've already told him that and tried to explain where that comes from but he just said that I have to overcome me because he otherwise turned off. So to kiss from me. And I can understand it, I mean, he's getting stupid at some point. And I try it

I really like him very much - he is funny, does not take himself too seriously, we can talk well and he looks good (incidental to me) and I have the feeling that there's something between us, but I can't fix it. And I'm afraid to say something because I have unbelievable fear of rejection.

I'm already the one who always asks for the meeting (except today) and sometimes think that he has no desire for me because he never asks. But my best friend said that he would then simply cancel.

besides I have angsz that he only meets me in the hope to be able to deflower me (had a few times) and I (again) in vain fall in love. But asking him something like that is probably more than ridiculous and brings nothing at all because he can just as well lie.

what do you think? What ust that between us and what should I do?

Either he just wants the friendship or just more. Just ask him more directly.

It's best to ask him about the things that concern you. We can advise a lot here and hope, but only he can give you his right answer.

You do not need to go into the house with the door. You said you can pretty much talk about everything. So just ask him why he does not ask for meetings but always waits for you to do that. From the answer can indeed draw conclusions.

take your time 🌺

Thanks. But to address something like that is unfortunately difficult for me. I know that nobody here knows - just wanted estimates - thank you!

That you do not get smart out of him, in my opinion, is solely up to you and not to him. It behaves in my opinion, as far as I could tell because of your text, normal.

What should he do if YOU are full of fears and doubts? He pushes you to nothing and gives you space. He is absolutely right when he says that you have to overcome him sometimes to kiss him.

It is YOUR fears and YOUR doubt. You have to work on that, if necessary with psychological or therapeutic help!

You can't expect him to always be considerate of your problems. Or that in every situation in life you get the security that you need because of your insecurity. Many things in life are a risk, there's virtually no guarantee for this world in this world.

You have to see that YOU are doing something to become a bit more interdependent. Maybe he'll just wait and see if you take the initiative and if you work on YOUR problems.

Thanks for the answer - I'm aware of that. Wanted something else out but thanks for the answer

What do you want to get out of? You have to be clear about what you want.