What is left for me as an alternative?

I, M / 17, have the following problem: I've lived all my life in London (6-8th grade, 12-15) in a northern German town, except three years. When I moved away with 12, I have lost the contact with many, but then when I came back at 15 (in the same class), I reintegrated reasonably well. Now the following problem: Had with 15.16 only really something to do with friends from London, because my "friends", or better acquaintances from my hometown were quite reliable and have invited me as well as never. (Although I was open, usually popular with many, etc.) Now, the classes have been completely re-mixed, and I'm with new people, who are actually doing quite well. Only I can do it, whether I'm ambitious or "laid back" not to meet with them outside of school. Feeling everyone has namely found his circle for a few years and leaves me there almost impossible to come in; moreover, this is made more difficult by the fact that some people do not like me and want to exclude me, and that a lot of the people are rather boring and I can't identify with them. What should I do? I'm tired of spending the majority of weekends at home with Netflix etc. While everyone else is on the go. Of course, with my friends from England, I can only meet at most all holidays, so I'm quite alone in everyday life after school. Would be very grateful for a proposed solution or your own experience.

My daughter had a similar problem. After the end of grade 10, her best friends disappeared from school and she now has to reorient herself in grade 11. First they met with the old friends, but since they all sleep in education.

Already a year ago I saw that coming and suggested to her to start a new hobby. After a few experiments she landed in a dance school. So right: waltz, disco box, etc. First she wrinkled her nose a little and now she is not there to take away. She found a great troupe and they are on the way from Fridays to Sundays. Since this has been going on for almost a year now, they are also really good at dancing. Currently they rattle off the balls of the neighboring dance schools and close more and more friendships. The Aufbrezeln and the sport she likes very well. She took off 15 kg and has fun without end. She started with a girlfriend and now they are basically 8 people. When everyone comes, they are 16 people and more. During the holidays they met in turn and danced on the house parties.

Mondays to Thursdays she goes to school well and does the tasks. Since she has no time as it is learned. So both work, good conclusion and a lot of fun.

You can suggest someone from the class (with whom you understand yourself well) to do something together. Surely the one or the other is ready for it. Otherwise, you can make friends outside the school. Vlt you visit a club or something

I myself M / 17 well integrated, popular, etc. Nevertheless, I feel that on everyone. So with us, or in our group, it is so that if we get new, always directly involve and so. You can just imagine too well something like that and that's why. Too bad that this is not the case with you.

Maybe you should try to fit into the circle of friends of your old friends / acquaintances. Sounds easier said than done but it makes it a lot easier if you know someone there. Then just say, for example, if somehow celebrate or so because of if you can come along sometimes. You can then continue to make contacts. So openly and honestly ask me. You may also find a person in your year to talk about. Maybe this results in something.

Otherwise just go to public clubs like football or something like that but I do not know that because I do not do that.

As you already mentioned, that you get on well with your classmates, you could just ask if they are doing something or if you want to start something.

It's best always to be open to everyone then it will be.

But what I'm wondering, why you write in other questions about you, that you are popular and often invited to parties?