I have a few dates now and then. I took a date home yesterday. It was a great evening, we cooked and then watched Netflix together. Suddenly my roommate comes in with the words: Well, do you have a guy here again? Wasn't last week's one good enough?
So we've been a bit hostile towards each other for a long time, mainly because I find his way exhausting, but that tops it all off?
My date then went home and I've never heard from him since.
One of you will have to move out if you can't live together.
It's no wonder that your date is no longer in touch. I would rather break off contact there
Then one of you will have to move out when it doesn't work anymore. So none of you will be satisfied. Otherwise you could still try to talk to each other, but we will see whether that will bring much benefit
It makes little sense that you live together.
You have to put yourself in the shoes of your roommate, he probably doesn't think it's so great if you bring some men with you that he doesn't know, he lives there just like you, I wouldn't find it great to have regular strangers in mine To have apartment.
Maybe he's just jealous.
That the guy then runs away and no longer reports is only natural, it made him feel like just one of many and nobody really likes that.
Then he should take a single apartment. Was my suggestion. But he doesn't want to either. He's just a dissatisfied person who has no partner or friends, and unfortunately I can't fire him.
He's just an energy vampire. I haven't even seen anyone visiting since he's been living here. Instead just grumbling, constantly. And he always wants to boss me around.
I think the only thing that helps is taking off, that sounds very exhausting
Yes, then I must move out. Because he only sees guilt with me.
From my own experience I would advise you to move out. In the long run that will really go wrong. Therefore it tries to clarify and on the good side it diverges. In my opinion this is the best solution.
Sometimes I have a really stressful day at work and such, while he's just at home all the time and, as he says, sometimes bored and always looking for something that he can blame on me.
Should I give you a really good tip Pack your things and move out as soon as possible, don't be angry with me but if I had been in your situation, because I have a strong personality, I would have knocked it away at some point. So that doesn't happen, move out. I wish you every success and then finally get some rest and an everyday life for you.
You will probably not become friends for life anymore. Nevertheless, you should talk to him and make it clear that this is not possible.
Also, moving house might be worth considering, but maybe that's exactly what your gross roommate is aiming for.
If he had a partner or at least friends, he would certainly see things differently. But he doesn't have either.
That may be, but it doesn't really help you
Yes I would have gone too.
but why do you live with someone like that? Or with anyone at all. That's really tedious
For cost reasons. In Frankfurt you can't afford a single apartment as a student.
The situation just sucks. I have maybe two visits within a week. And dates. Six weeks ago someone where we had sex. He then ran past my room every 5 minutes in the evening and even stopped in front of the door to listen. You can see that through the gap below.
Next morning I look at my cell phone and 10x WhatsApp messages that the hustle and bustle in my room would disturb him. In my opinion, we weren't loud at all.
It's unfortunate, but you won't change it. You will only have to move out, because you will no longer be happy with this roommate.
Unfortunately, it is not so easy to find affordable apartments in Frankfurt.
I don't think that will change either. He is what he is.
But nobody can forbid you to have visitors. You don't have to ask his permission. When he moved in in September, that was the first thing he wanted to force on me. And other things like, for example, I should clean my pan. He wanted to forbid me to put them in the dishwasher. Always cleared them out and said I should wash them by hand. That is probably not his problem
I already understand your problems and your justified anger. Nevertheless, see that you change your apartment.
Maybe I'll move back to my parents for now and give my notice at the beginning of January.
If you get on well with your parents and they don't interfere in your life as much as your roommate, that would be an option. How old are you, if I may ask? I know that from my own daughter. She stayed at home during her studies after we created a separate apartment with a separate entrance.
I'm 24 years. We get along pretty well. The only problem is that it would take me longer to work every day. I'm employed at the university and from Darmstadt it's already a bit to Frankfurt. I'll be there in 10 minutes.
And outside?
I could move back to Darmstadt to live with my parents. However, it then takes me over an hour to get to work.
With the parents is also oasch 😅
are there koa small apartments outside the city? What can you spend?
Thank you
With pleasure. Did you talk again?
