I know the question is long, it arises from despair and I would be extremely happy to get helpful answers.
Hello, I have had problems with my life for 2 years now, I'm not alive, I'm always tired, stressed, no self-esteem, self-confidence, no desire for life…
I discovered "Social Anxiety" in me, because every day is a horror for me, due to contact with people… Which I in turn overcome with a psychological trick…
I was once very happy, had good grades, was often insulted for no reason, which maybe put me in this negative line…
I haven't been myself for a long time… And I don't know what's going on with me, as long as I'm looking for answers so often I thought I had made it out of the negative phase… But at the end of the day I was back in bed and watch Netflix with unmade homework and the fear of leaving the house in the morning… I often get lost in my thoughts… Don't get me wrong, but I have no bad requirements… I have food, drink, a roof over my head, high school, Fitness studio contract, optically not too bad, but for some reason I can no longer make it out of the phase… I hardly think of people I know anymore just that my life is not so good at the moment, and the daily routine of stress, fear, Despair, struggle, sport and sleep exist…
I hardly have a good memory anymore, everything I do I forget the next moment…
When I go to sleep I think of the Netflix series, films that I watched and not the day at school or with people, which I find abnormal (at school I'm only tired and demotivated)
I tried it superficially, fought anxiety, tried to fight stress, tried to get addictions, tried to do my homework, but I just couldn't do it out of demotivation, I just couldn't get myself up… No matter how hard I told myself…
I would love to have fun with girls and boys my age and enjoy life, wake up in the morning and look forward to the day… (I'm 14 years old)
Is there anything I can do and "live" again?
Hmm talk to your parents, do a little with your family or just go out to a field or something and listen to chilled music. Think about the things you can all do in your life, believe me there's so much.
What is your meaning of life?
you have to overcome yourself.
I've already tried all of this, it must have something of deep origin, because I've had it for a long time and I've been trying to undo it with so many things for so long…
Then talk to your parents about it and maybe get help
I answer very briefly with a counter question:
What does your therapist say?
I tried it superficially, fought anxiety, tried to fight stress
The first tip I recommend to you is; Stop making diagnoses. You are not a psychologist.
My second tip is to make plans for the day. Many people need a structure in their lives. Therefore my tip. Work with lists. Make lists of what you have to do, such as going to school, doing homework, studying, meeting friends, etc. You can also put your Netflix time into bed with them.
Follow these lists. Test it out for 4 weeks and see if it gives you structure.
Hi🙂
It's a tough question. Stress and fear can also be triggered by various things.
A very simple thing would be disturbed sleep or too little sleep. This almost certainly leads to problems in the long run. At your age, at least 7 hours of sleep would be quite good, it shouldn't be much less. There are also physical causes that can disrupt sleep. There are apps with which you can measure your sleep quality. This is probably not that reliable, but maybe it could provide a clue.
Media consumption can also be stressful and trigger. Spending several hours a day on series, news, and other things can also affect you. It's difficult for me as an adult to endure what is presented there every day.
A one-sided diet high in sugar can also affect mood. Eating regularly is also important to keep your blood sugar level constant. If the sways, you don't feel comfortable and that can also increase fears. A protein-heavy breakfast is also recommended for anxiety problems. The proteins also trigger effects that protect against fear and stress (you will certainly also find sources of this).
That occurred to me now spontaneously.
Of course you can also go to the doctor and have yourself checked out.
I'm 17, had something very similar. Make daily plans now, so plan my days very strictly (except Sundays), also with enough time to gamble and watch series. Being grateful also helps a lot. Just walk in the forest and list what you are thankful for. In the evening I always reflect on the day and plan the next day. Takes about 30 minutes each evening. It's quite exhausting to pull it off, but it's worth it.
Also, I generally just do a lot more sport in nature (cycling, jogging), an ugly gym makes (at least me) unhappy.
The next level would then be to learn that you still don't know everything and that you will never know everything. Learn to program, learn how to be successful or start to learn about the economy, it will bring you a lot. I'm on Python. I read a lot (at least try it), although I don't really like reading. But as soon as it comes to a topic that interests you, you like it too. You don't need any excuses, there are enough Insta pages (vision success, the founder of the existence, etc.) or YouTube tutorials about programming, from Python via Java via C to C # or C ++ and so on… There are also books that are free, like Bodo Schäfer's successful "The Road to Financial Freedom".
There's so much to learn! It kills me that I can never know everything. But that's what motivates me.
Thank you I have already found the origin, but thanks anyway
In fact? Takes me miracles.
After 5 sessions within 8 weeks he had no idea ^^
Then you will definitely find out together.
