I try to make it short:
My mom works very often, 5 times a week. Whenever she comes home from work, she rests watching Netflix because she is completely exhausted, which I can understand. When she comes home from work, around 3 p.m. To 5 p.m., I always have to watch Netflix with her, well, which means, just to spend a little time.
On days when she doesn't work, I really have to be with her from 12 noon to 10 p.m. Because she says that she is otherwise alone and if I just get up for a meal or something, she says immediately, where are you going?' 'Are you leaving me already?' and if I want to go to my room at 6 or 8 p.m. The next day she is angry that I always leave her alone and never spend time with her.
We only live in pairs. My mom gets angry quickly and tries to control everything in my life such as If I go out with someone I have to take a picture that I'm not outside with other people, my cell phone (chat history, gallery…), when I go to sleep and so on…
When I ask her for something, she always gets angry quickly or says, 'okay' but still doesn't do it and she never wants to compromise. Generally she never tells me clear boundaries, doesn't teach me much like e.g. Household, I have to do the whole household at once, although she almost never showed it to me and so on…
W / 16
I just want to hear your opinion and get tips on what I can do about it
I think she is afraid that you will leave her and that she will be alone. Maybe it's good for her to get involved in a community. Women's circle in the church.
As long as your mother wants to be with you is not normal. I mean a couple of hours a day, but that's extreme, probably because she doesn't have a boyfriend.
Yes, that's a good idea, that you can also connect with other women and friends.
Seems to be a serious thing. Sit down with your mother and really talk to each other openly. Of course, she can't tell you to always stay down etc. If you really suffer from it, it can help to talk to others and get advice (from friends or e.g. School psychologists).
This is by no means normal. Call the number against grief.
You are 16. Too early to move out, but old enough to say. It is enough.
Because what you describe is something for which kids are not there to replace the "father". I know that was absolutely the same with me. At 16 you are allowed to be out until midnight. Take advantage of it and clearly state that I'm not here to replace my father. (of course ONLY if nothing relevant has happened)
Sure she's your mother, but if you don't react now what we have may come.
My mother-in-law who is completely finished because her daughter (who also slept in her bed with her) died much too early.
Tell her clearly if she comes to you like this: "No today."
