A man with whom I had an F + for a long time asked if he could not come over and we could watch a series and cuddle together. Little story: I have n trauma that came back only a few weeks ago, which is why I have extreme problems trusting people or getting involved with them, which currently excludes sex as long as I don't trust someone 100% and I need time for a kiss and making out to feel completely safe. I had made this clear to him and he said that it was okay. I thought he would turn away from me but instead he is looking for meetings even though he is currently in his Abi phase. Now he had asked if he could not come over in the evening and we would watch Netflix and cuddle together if it was okay for me. Sure I was pleased that he was apparently taking what I was saying but my question now is whether he is just doing it in the hope of getting me back to bed. On this subject I also said that I need time and trust people got to. Or whether he just wants friendship or a relationship. Maybe a few people can judge that here.
Just go in there and then you will find it out yourself and if he goes too far then tell him you don't want that.
Of course, nobody can estimate there, as we do not know people.
More options:
He hopes you can get around and have sex after all
He thinks to cuddle better than nothing
He enjoys cuddling and actually doesn't want to
He has fallen in love with you a little and therefore wants to be close and hopes to be able to help you.
Let it be.
You should currently avoid any contact completely if you haven't noticed it yet. Apart from that, you don't know who else has something going on with him.
First, social contacts should be screwed down to the absolutely imperative. Cuddling = guaranteed infection. Do you want to get away from an F + exploiter… Guy risking the infection of your loved ones incl. Strangers dead by spreading?
Second, the guy is lying as if it were printed, it is 100% clear what he wants.
Third, find someone who really loves you. Even for healthy people without trauma, relationships with F + are traumatizing and harmful. It's ONLY about sex and is very selfish and very hurtful.
