Am I too easy or is this normal?

I got to know a guy I met with recently and we watched Netflix together (w / 16 & m / 16).

We have somehow cuddled and held hands. We were pretty close together and actually I enjoyed that pretty much, just now I feel really uncomfortable and dirty, because I actually have not known him for so long and his flirtation etc so apparently have brought something.

Am I easy to have now, because I have responded and I would like to repeat that?

Or should I behave differently and if so how?

Completely normal. You are 16 years old. Nothing can be said against cuddling, even if it gets more than that.

It may be far-fetched right now, but I can only advise you for a good guess with whom you want to have more. Girls who are going to get sex after sex for eternity. Especially if some of them are from their own circle of friends. That only as a tip for you future.

As I said, far-fetched, just as a little tip. Otherwise, everything is ok with you.

No you are not easy to have. There's nothing for you to be ashamed of or why you should feel dirty.

You did not sleep right away with him. And with the sex you should also wait a bit, at least if you have serious interest. If it does not really bother you that he could be gone after sex then you do not really need to wait there either, then you have to live with the consequences as well.

Men and women do not fall in love immediately. Women fall in love especially with physical closeness and touch because it is exactly here that a lot of oxytocin is released. That's why women can fall in love with a man with whom they have become intimate several times.

The whole has an evolutionary background point because the man with whom you have sex could be the theoretical father of your theoretical children. And with him you have to stay together if possible. After all, a pregnancy is not exactly a picnic that you could handle alone without any problems.

As unfair as it sounds, but a theoretical pregnancy is no reason for a man to bind permanently to a woman. In men, oxytocin is mainly released before sex.

However, this only happens if he also feels affection and respect for this woman. Seriously, these two feelings are, in principle, the Holy Grail. Without these two feelings, everything is nothing. The problem is that after the first time sex with a woman, the man loses respect for her if he has not previously felt respect for her.

That's why it's so critical not to get involved in sex with him right away. You can do anything else with him. Cuddling with him. Kisses with him. Do everything with him, but do not sleep with him. Give him a no. When you put a man in his place by saying no to him, he recognizes your values and your personality. He does not want a woman who can do anything with him because men need a partner and not a toy.

Men love women who know exactly what they want and get it. Do not worry about what he might think about you or what others might think about you. Just take what you want. Maybe you know the saying "good girls go to heaven but evil girls are everywhere."

Above all, men love exciting women. Concentrate on starting to do more with him, which has more to do with it. You could go for a walk with him somewhere, plan a bike ride, and if there's a carnival or something like that in your town, then you really have the jackpot.

A study has proven that people can fall in love much faster when they are in exciting situations. In the attractions it is exciting, the heart begins to strike fast and the brain is not sure if the heart beats now because of the roller coaster so fast or if it is because of the partner. This is called mis-attribution. So you could take advantage of this effect perfectly. Therefore amusement parks z.b. Also so predestined for first dates.

Personally, I think you can cuddle with him. I might start kissing after a meeting or two. To sleep with someone is in my opinion something that should not be thoughtless. I would wait too. If you just cuddled, everything is fine. It's important that he knows that he can't do anything with you and that you do not get involved with anyone that fast.

Krass, so from my personal experience, I can only agree. Class explained

Thanks. I'm glad that it helps.