Just watched a series on Netflix about polygamous relationships. A man with three wives and about 15 or more children. After the series I'm mentally exhausted, not because it bothers me or I would have something against it, but because it was all too much for me.
Aren't the men overwhelmed to have it all every day?
And women, how about you? What do you think about that? Or how would you feel?
These men are rich
then everyone can
Sometimes it's exhausting. I have happily lived with two partners for 22 years.
However, three women and 15 children would be too much for me. Smile.
No they are not, or how many Reciche do you know with more than one?
After the series I'm mentally exhausted, not because it bothers me or I would have something against it, but because it was all too much for me.
Why? You just looked at it and don't have to coordinate everything yourself.
Aren't the men overwhelmed to have it all every day?
I say what I think. You have to consider in such a relationship that the patterns there are probably a little different and you can see that in one or two of the TV releases. Which one is outnumbered has to adapt more. Example man with several women. The man can't adapt to everyone and adapt to everyone that is not possible, therefore the women have to adapt a little more in the constellation, with 1 woman and 2 men the men. That doesn't really mean anymore, they have to give up some expectations from monogamous relationships.
While in monogames you have a struggle between the two, which personality prevails more, the majority must withdraw and adapt more to the individual partner and also arrange and respect with the other partner of the partner. Although you could say that it is not that different in itself, but you have one or two more people with whom everyone in the partnership has to deal with.
The first thing that has to go away in such relationships is the "I'm the hottest on earth" think. In such a relationship it is not possible to see yourself as the measure of all things, whether man or woman. In a relationship like this, you are what you are, a person of many and not a goddess or superior. I suspect that this is one reason why some have problems with polyamor, they are loved in the relationship, but you are no longer unique and thus the ego is badly weakened.
Usually a 3 or 4 relationship or marriage should not be any different than in normal, because everyone does their part to contribute to the family, both financially and with appropriate work. You just shouldn't expect the outnumbered one to hang on your trousers constantly, as with Monogam.
Thank you for your answer. I put myself too far in there, there were also several couples in the series, and you saw one woman happily cool, the other cried, the other was pregnant and gave birth, then the man's brother died and the thought was that he was the brother's two wives would also have married if they had been five wives, you could see a lot in a short time, maybe that was why I was overwhelmed
But think about the real time in everyday life is probably a lot more relaxed
You must not forget that what happens to them also happens to monogames. You should also consider that the wives can be there for one vein, especially in the cosmic relation, you don't have that in monogamous marriages, in the best case a friend or parent takes over, with several husbands it may be similar. A polygamous relationship can be an advantage in a crisis because it offers more people to trust and more support, but it can also be a disadvantage, depending on the state of the relationship. One should also not forget that polygam has more opportunities for crises, consider 3 women that there are 3x in-laws.
As for the brother's women, I think that it is there and in other polyamors and polygamous relationships that everyone has to agree. This is certainly not the case for everyone, but would be logical since the others also have to deal with the new ones. With such series also consider that a certain amount of tension is also wanted and that sometimes something and if it is through clever cutting of the material, something is puffed up.
