A good special friend (Crush) and I have known each other for about 8 months (actually over a year but only saw each other at the time). We met often and did something together, e.g. Going out to eat, going to the cinema, riding a motorcycle, cooking and watching Netflix together, skiing, etc.
I only got feelings for her over time, the problem: She has a boyfriend. But we still talked about it and it turned out that I'm very, very important to her, but also interested in me but has no feelings. But she knows that I want to fight for her love and she thinks it is "very sweet". She said even if she didn't have a boyfriend, it would be different because then she couldn't cheat on anyone. So she means she would do more to me but her feelings still see me more as a friend.
But she also told me that since she often does something with her friends, she doesn't want to (as long as I don't accept that we're just good friends), that I'm there because she doesn't want it to be "strange". But she also said that one day something can happen when the feelings are ready. It just oscillates between good friendship and relationship.
Then I think to myself, how am I supposed to influence their feelings and fight for their love if I don't get the opportunity. I mean, on the other hand, we almost always do something alone. But due to Corona we can hardly meet, for example. Go out to eat or spend a whole day because there's always someone in the house.
Now I just don't know how to arouse her feelings. We currently only see each other every two weeks or even once a month because either Corona or the school is in the way.
Can anyone help me? She is just the most important person for me.
Bro she has a boyfriend. To interfere further is absolutely antisocial
You have to wait. If you are lucky, her love is stronger and she breaks up with her boyfriend. Apparently their love isn't strong enough yet. It's good that you told her how you feel about her. But you can't force feelings so easily.
But you can't force feelings so easily.
Yes, I know that too, but I can't give up so easily. I can only try to arouse your feelings by just meeting, just as I got them by just meeting
Why should that be anti-social. This is a bloody class relationship, they hardly ever see their boyfriend because of shift work / homeschooling and they don't do anything.
Be yourself. You can do it, but don't get too involved.
It does not matter. You shouldn't care what they do together and when. Interfering with someone in the relationship is antisocial.
At some point a friend leaves you for another guy, but then you don't need to cry, you did the same thing as him.
If she feels more comfortable and happier with me then why should she continue to stay with him. Or why should anyone else take it away from me if it is not happier with anyone else than with me, hmm?
Thank you! I will do my best
Why should anyone else take it away from me if it is no happier with anyone than me
You have never had a relationship huh? In the long run, things often quickly look very different. It's great for you that you're so convinced of yourself, but as I said, don't complain if she leaves you for someone else. Because if she leaves her current boyfriend for you, she has brought something like that before.
But then you at least know that he has not lost anything special, hence nvm
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Even if you won't like my answer:
It won't work. I was in an almost similar situation once.
She likes you and doesn't want to hurt you that's why she's nice to you.
And what I also had to learn: You can't force feelings. I would interfere even less with their relationship (that's not antisocial, in my opinion, but you don't do that). You become a troublemaker and make things worse.
I was in an almost similar situation once.
Just because it was like that for you doesn't mean it has to be like that for me too.
You just have to know how it's done Women are an algorithm that is really easy once you understand it
You just have to know how
It's different for everyone, isn't it?
