I feel extremely guilty for doing nothing.
I watched Netflix with a friend because we were bored and he got closer all the time and after a while he put his arm around me and "stroked" his thumb, but said straight away that I had to call my friend right away, to "remind" him or something.
After that he hardly "looked" for physical contact.
I wrote to him after the meeting and asked if he wanted something from me, he said no, because I have a boyfriend.
I recently met with him again for about 1.5 hours, because I actually wanted to discuss this with him again, but didn't get around to it.
And now I feel bad and think I cheated.
What do you think?
You have not cheated on him.
You told him straight away that you have a boyfriend and, more importantly, you felt UNWELL about his actions, so it happened UNVOLTLY.
If you have such a bad feeling, then you can tell your friend yes. You did everything to make it stop.
And as for the other: They shouldn't want nothing from you because you have a boyfriend, but because YOU don't want it. After all, he doesn't respect your limits, but what about your friend's? No, stay away from that. If you still want to be friends with him, then make it clear to him that you want NOTHING from him and that he can't shake anything in your relationship! Finished.
I would simply break off contact in your place and tell your friend about it… If you know men (and I'm one myself) then you know that of course he wants something from you
You don't have to worry about that, you definitely haven't cheated. You did not want physical contact with the boy and immediately said that you have a boyfriend or that you have to call him.
No, that's not cheating, all advances came from him, you just wanted to spend some time with a friend and also indirectly pointed out to him or reminded him that you were taken.
But it's not a big deal in my opinion, my best friend and I also hug each other often or get closer when we watch a series or a movie together.
What you feel is a guilty conscience and not because you have already done it, no, because you have toyed with the thought and were on your way to it.
You refused in the first situation, but then met the man again. You take it all in and you don't really make up your mind.
You are in a tangle of emotions that is pulling at you. You can deal with this if you take your time to think about it. Approaching your boyfriend now and "confessing" something to him that has not yet happened would shake your relationship considerably. First get by for yourself.
If you decide to continue the relationship, make an honest effort to keep it and enjoy it too.
If you choose new territory, then split up and draw a line.
14th
It's not because I've thought about whether I want to, if something happens in that direction, I just get a bad feeling and can neither think clearly (then just look for a quick way out of the situation), nor really say something.
